Tell me I'm not overreacting
First of all, BM wrote a long letter to DH about how she wouldn't allow SD5 to travel out of town with us for one weekend because "I am raising this precious little girl to love God. Consistency in her faith-life is extremely important.". Which meant, no because she can't miss Church. Yet, we picked SD5 up tonight for our weekend and SD5 informed us that BM and her grandparents took her out of town this last weekend and guess what, she missed Church.
To top that off, on our way home from dinner, SD5 told DH that "next time it's just me and you Daddy, we should call Mommy and ask her to eat dinner with us". Now had that been one of my kids that had said that (especially in front of their stepdad and stepsister) I would have told them that their Father is more than welcome to join our family at any time for dinner, but that having dinner without their stepfather present would be inappropriate and disrespectful. Instead, DH says "well we'll have to see".
What? Seriously? And I wonder where a 5 year old came up with that idea? Hmmmmmm?
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Notmyfirstrodeo... No,
Notmyfirstrodeo... No, you're not overreacting. BUT... how you show your reaction to this is key.
If you nag, yell, or let loose on your DH, you are probably going to get his back up, and he'll defend what he said as being "put on the spot" and "what else would you want me to say" kind of thing... Just guessing.
If you talk to him later, and just express your concerns calmly, using your children as the example, he might hear you better.
He probably was caught off guard and just went blank. Give him a break.
As far as BM.. well, she's a different story. Yes, she seems to be manipulating SD, and through SD - DH. Get DH on YOUR side and he'll nip that in the bud. Make too big of a deal about it, and you have a tougher time the next time around.
That's my opinion on it. Hope it helps.
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Thanks Stick!! You are
Thanks Stick!! You are absolutely right. But sometimes the situation gets the best of me and I just want to rip someone's head off. I've learned to let it simmer before I say anything. And goforit, DH would NEVER agree to what SD5 suggested, but he refuses to be honest with her for fear of causing emotional damage. In my opinion, he's causing more damage by allowing BM to plant this kind of crap in her head and not being truthful with her.