Silly vent needed.

So now 2 years have gone by since SS20 #1 and SS20 #2 twins graduated high school. SS20-1 is in College - as any normal young person.

SS20-2... well that's a story that I will explain in a list, that might not even be complete:

• Graduated  2022
• Did not apply to any college or community college - no interest
• took a few months off
• got a part-time job and then failed at many part - time jobs
• enlisted in the army - failed to go when it was time.
• kept working odd jobs and losing them (SO always blamed the supervisors)
• got a 2 hour certificate as a unarmed security guard
• got a security officer job - lost the job due to tardiness (which I called out several times and was shunned by SO)
• his idea of a job was to be a bouncer - so got a bouncer job at the most risky club in the city...
• Signed up and dropped out of community college 3 times - couldn't keep up with film and acting classes!
• after 6 months bouncer job was put on freeze due club remodel during the summer- SS20-2 says he's going to wait for club to reopen in the fall... so he's not willing to pickup another job...
• with all this free time... he decided to write a short film script... but SO was his typing secretary SMH
• on and off in several MMA academies around the city
• at some point expressed he wanted to be cuddled and coddled forever - that adult life was hard
• told his BM she and my SO had to support him $$$ because that's what parents do with their child - mind you a brat that since 15 has insisted he is his OWN ADULT MAN and even called his twin a manchild
• Decided to signup for police academy to start in June, no wait August, no wait now October....
• his car needed maintenance, SO made him come home to take the car together to the shop (let him learn and be independent!!!)

So here we are with an SS20 just lazying around self-justifying why he's not working and studying. At least he's living with BM. I called out SO on this... 2 YEARS and SS has accomplished NOTHING!!! SO said they have a plan which is Police academy, and I need to understand his ADHD and Dyslexia!! Which I've heard now for 8 years as an excuse for lack of motivation and hyper laziness; and lack of parental structure and requirements.

The other day we went to an event with friends, and there were friends from out of town. One of them asked SS, at dinner, about his plans, and career future... SS managed to answer that he wants to win big in the lottery!!! I called it out to SO a few days later and SO said "Isn't he so witty, right?" I secretly rolled my eyes, vomited in my mouth and just smirked and walked away. Can a parent be so blind???

Also at that event SS was eager to help pickup after the event ended, he said: "I like being useful and helping people". Next day at my house, he ate, left his damn plate in the sink... so much for liking to help people! 

Ugh what gets me is that with all this Soft Disney parenting, we might have a 30 yo bum on our couch... him on couch, me out!!