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Escalation of red flags - Makes me sick

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Submitted by noidea1010 on Fri, 01/24/2014 - 1:02pm

We checked SD's phone last night and there are more disgusting message's from Boy Toy.

"it's boring here without you" - SD is with SO this week
"I love you more. I'll show you"

I could go on, but I really don't feel like being sick. Per CPS's recommendations, the email to Crazy has been sent. Just for the record, I have absolutely NO CONTACT with Crazy. SO chose to marry her in his past, he can deal with her. Not to mention, I feel she would completely ignore anything I said, even at the risk of her daughter's safety.

Putting it to a vote

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Submitted by noidea1010 on Tue, 01/21/2014 - 3:17pm

So as I discussed my situation and the impending "email" to Crazy, I have decided I might be a bit one-sided in my thought process of when the email should be sent.

Just a brief overview: Crazy's Boy Toy is grooming STB13SD to be molested. Texts of missing her on nights where it's just them and telling her that he's going to start treating her more like an adult, etc. Discussed with counselor and CPS social worker and they agreed with me that 1st step would be emailing Crazy and making her aware of the situation.

Hey, BM's been a bitch, but let's give her what she wants...

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Submitted by noidea1010 on Mon, 01/20/2014 - 7:14pm

I am very frustrated right now, mainly because I'm not disengaged as much as I would like sometimes (advice of the counselor). So...maybe I'm overreacting and I know you ladies will definitely put me in my place if I am. I certainly depend on it, even if it makes me realize I've been stupid.

Can karma hurry up please?

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Submitted by noidea1010 on Sat, 01/18/2014 - 12:15pm

Karma for Crazy (BM) can't come fast enough. Although I don't want that karma have to do with SD being molested.

SO called CPS hotline yesterday and they recommended notifying Crazy about the inappropriate texts between Boy Toy and SD. SO will be doing the email, I just wish there was more to be done. Crazy is just going to accuse SO of making things up, taking them out of context, and being jealous. Then will probably tell SD not to let SO see her phone.

Red Flag continued...

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Submitted by noidea1010 on Fri, 01/17/2014 - 4:35pm

Thanks everyone for replying in my previous post: http://www.steptalk.org/node/176199

While I didn't have time to reply, I did read and advised my SO on what was recommended. Along with mentioning it to the therapist who also recommended emailing BM, so that it was documented. I would really love to talk to someone from CPS to know official steps. I like what one poster said about temporary custody, because I do know that BM will ignore it and accuse SO of being jealous of her BF.

Defensive much?!

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Submitted by noidea1010 on Thu, 12/12/2013 - 3:21pm

Oh how I hate how defensive SO gets when I say the least unkind thing about SD12. Sorry!!!! Your little angel is not perfect!!!! We've had this discussion before, where I am not attacking her, I am trying to point out something that needs to be corrected. You jumping my shit because you don't like hearing that she's not always pleasant to be around is going to cost you, because I will not continue to fight you. You can work that shit out with your next GF, dumbass.

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