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Is it right to allow your 15 year old to smoke?

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So, my wife tells me the other day that her son(my SS15) came to her a while ago, and told her that he smokes, which in my book is very honest and I give the kid credit for being so upfront. My wife smokes, and she told me that she has given SS15 a couple of cigarettes. To me that seems like condoning it, and I absolutely do not agree with it. My wife says that when she was a kid, she was allowed to smoke, but my question is...."Is it really ok to tell a 15 y.o.

I wish I could crawl under a rock and die!!

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Here goes another novel. Here's the condensed version of my story although I don't know how much I can really shorten it. My kids lived with me from the ages of 2 and 3 to the ages of 9 and 10(first 4-5 years just with me, and the next 2-3 with me and my current wife). Just recently they both decided to move in with their mother, and I told them I didn't have a problem with that because she's gotten her life pretty straightened out since we split. So anyway, they wanted to live with her, so I told them o.k.

The best Thanksgiving I've had in years!!

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I decided to tell my wife that if she wanted to have her little Thanksgiving dinner with SS and SD that was fine, but I wanted to take the other kids to my Grandparents' house for the day, so I could see the relatives that I don't ever get a chance to see. She was upset, but with the way that my SS has been acting lately, I can't even stand the thought of being around him. Even on Thanksgiving morning he was a little asshole!! I did feel bad because I would have loved to have taken my SD with me to my grandparents' house too, but I knew that would be pushing it.

I really think that I finally can say that I GIVE UP!!

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I'm not going to even bore anybody on here with anymore details, but I just think that it's pathetic that I can't even be happy in my own home anymore. I don't even want to be there. I'd rather work overtime, or take all the kids except for my ss anywhere but where he is. I feel worn out, beat up, stressed, depressed, and just plain sick and tired of that little bastard getting away with it all. I really want to thank all of you who have taken the time to give me advice in all of these matters, and who have listened to me whine like there's no tomorrow.

The conversation

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(After two failed attempts to get my son and SS to stop arguing and waiting for about 5 more minutes, I finally knocked on my SS's door and...)
Me: You two boys give each others Bakugan back now, so Caleb(my son) can get ready for bed.
SS: (Throws Caleb's Bakugan on the floor, and looks at me)There are you happy!!(snotty)
Me: Don't start.
SS: Why what are you going to do about it?
Me: Just sh...never mind.(was going to say shut up but don't like to tell the kids that).
SS: Don't even go there with me!!!

Here I am once again!!

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Since the last blog that I posted I thought that things were getting better. I had finally gotten my wife to admit that my SS had a problem and that he needed to go live with his Dad for a while. His dad is a good man, but my wife doesn't like the fact that if the kid needs to get his ass beat, then he does. I think that it's what he needs myself. Anyway, we had decided at the end of the school year that he was going to go stay with his Dad until the end of next school year to see how things would go and see if he did better in school, etc.

I don't want to get another divorce!!

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I know that this site is intended for issues with stepkids, but I have an issue that has stemmed from step kids. I'm not going to tell my whole story, because I think that most of it is in my past blogs, so if you'd like more info check them out. Well, just from the responses that I got to my last blog this may not be a surprise to some of you, but my wife and I are separating.

last blog cont.

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Sorry to end that last one so quickly, but I'm at work and was out of time. I can't get on this at home because my wife checks my history everyday, but that's another story altogether. I am just so scared of losing my wife, but I'm afraid that if I don't do something soon it's going to end badly for all of us. As far as the couples counseling, that hasn't worked either. I feel like I get blamed for EVERYTHING!!! Anyway, that you for the advice and anymore is greatly appreciated. I would be more than happy to talk to anybody who is going through that same situation as me.

I love my wife, but can't stand my SS!!

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I know that this sounds horrible, and I feel like a horrible person for even having these thoughts, but it's true. I can't even pretend anymore. I've written a couple of blogs in the past kinda venting about him, but it's gotten SO much worse now. The problem is that my wife and I have had a lot of issues over this, and our relationship isn't looking so hot right now either. I love her, but I just can't live with her son. I've attempted counseling for him, but he won't talk, and my wife doesn't feel that he even needs to go to counseling.

I just want to give up!!

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I only get on here once in a while because if my wife knew that I was on here she would have a fit, and especially if she knew that I was blogging about her precious golden child. I am really now completely and totally fed up with the whole situation that I'm in and I think that I am ready to just get the hell out for my sake and my childrens' sakes. I feel like a prisoner in my own home now. I can't even scold my SS without him running to his "Mommy" and telling her.

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