Do the Skids behave better for you or their parents
Both of my Skids have zero respect for BM and she admits they won't do anything she tells them.
SD is a great kid at our house, with few exceptions, and listens well to SO and myself.
SS is pretty bratty. Whines to get his own way and will resort to tears if necessary when dealing with SO.
SS listens well for me when SO is not around.
Example
Two weekends ago SO had to work Saturday and I keep the kids. I raked up some leaves and told the kids to go put them in the trash. SD was fine but SS immediately begins to whine. I looked around the room and said, You know your dad's at work, right? Who are you whining for? He shut right up and did the work.
Last Friday, I picked them up from school and drove 1hr 15min to SS's eye dr, spent over 1hr waiting for him to be seen, then went to lunch and the grocery store. SS was really well behaved. I didn't have to correct him even once.
It's always been like this. When I tell SO that SS listens better when he's not around, of course, he gets defensive. I don't mess around and they actually get consequences when they misbehave with me. SO just lectures, lectures, lectures then gets pissed and starts yelling.
I know a lot of people on here have disengaged or their SO would never allow their kid to have a consequence, but for the others, who do your Skids behave better for?
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Mine listen to no one. I give
Mine listen to no one. I give consequences and it's a big screaming fight. Like they don't have to listen to me. One of them is def worse than the other. But I feel like the harder anyone tries with him the worse he gets
SS is usually well behaved
SS is usually well behaved and doesn't usually cross the line; nevertheless, when he does, it's around DH and not me. I can honestly say I have no complaints in that department.
SS is usually well behaved
SS is usually well behaved and doesn't usually cross the line; nevertheless, when he does, it's around DH and not me. I can honestly say I have no complaints in that department.
Same here!
In my case, it's two kids, who are very young 2 and 3 1/2. But they are pretty much fine when dad is out.
I can manage them, preparing them for the day, breakfast washing up and some me time and no one is upset. When my partner is there the kids become some sobbing whiney unbearable children. I can't stand being there then. I really prefer time without him in the picture