Get a restraining order.

reel that bitch in! WTF right does she have to do that to another human being?? Just because she's "that way" does NOT give her the right to put her hands on you OR threaten you in ANY WAY. Seriously, consult with a lawyer ASAP.

~I've been drinkin down your pain...gonna turn that whiskey into rain and wash you away...~

Yous should start to document everything. I would go and file complaints every time she she attacks or threatens you, every time. I know in pa restraining orders are hard to get and this is the advice I was given although BM has never tried to come at me, she knows I would hurt her given the chance. Call a lawyer they can guide you in the right direction. And no, she does not have the right to treatt you like this.

I second the restraining order. skids Bm assaulted me 3 yrs ago.. now she verbally assaults me when the mood strikes. To this day, I wish I had called the police and filed for a restraining order.

Dont let her continue.. document everything, and contact the police!

a restraining order..ASAP

"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"

DOCUMENT EVERYTHING! BM stabbed me in the hand with her car keys (6 years ago) at the park in front of the SK's. I took a picture of it when I got home. Needless to say, I have not been within many feet of her since and always with DH in between us. She was trying to talk to DH and he didn't want to have anything to do with her. I said "Why would you want to talk to someone who clearly does not want to talk to you" and she blew a gasket.

Get yourself a little notebook and a friend. Every time she calls write what she says down, verbatim! Every time she calls or says anything to you in person call your designated friend/relative and tell them. Tell your friend/relative why you are doing this and their role is to listen and remember in case anything happens to you.

Restraining orders are a great back up, but they are like an invisible wall. If she wants to harm you a restraining order will not stop her. I'm not saying you shouldn't get one. By all means do! But, document too please.

And let me add that you should check your state laws about recording telephone conversations. Record her threats, document who, what, where, etc... No WAY should you have to deal with this type of behaviour and threats just because she's"just that way"!!! WTF is wrong with your DH that he could think even for a second that you should have to put up with this abuse from his ex???

IMO - that's just wrong. You've been putting up with this for 12 YEARS??? :O Nikkii - you must have the paitience of Job, I can't believe that.....

PS - read the fine print on the restraining order. I could be wrong, but I think it will say something to the effect that BM is to stay XXX feet or yards, etc, away from you, not you from her. I THINK you'd be fine going to games/activities with the skids, provided YOU get there first, BM would be the one who would have to leave. Now wouldn't THAT just be the cat's @ss!!??

IF you were granted a restraining order, she would have to stay away from wherever the judge orders. I once had one against my exH (while we were married) and he was ordered to stay away 300 yards from me, our son, my residence (even though he lived there), my work, our son's daycare and anywhere my family resided or worked, to have no contact in any way with me or my family and to turn over all guns if he owned any (he didn't). But I don't know that a judge would order her to stay away from her kids events. I would file complaints with the police dept everytime she does it and try that route first. Restraining orders can be hard to get and you'll have to go to court with her and plead your case to a judge, and she will get the chance to defend herself as well.

"You never realize how short a month is until you pay child support"