I have just been lurking for a while, no drama here because there has been ZERO contact with SD since last March. The last blog I wrote was about being invited to SD's house for Christmas dinner with her mother, grandparents, and aunt's family. We didn't go...DH didn't want to and I always have done Christmas at my house. And my 90 yr old Dad wasn't invited, nor was my son or his GF, my daughter and her BF were invited.Whatever.FF to end of January and we get together at my house for Christmas. As usual, I go way overboard and spend $$ on her, her DH, and the kids. I do believe it is the thought that couonts so I spend a lot of time and put a lot of thought into gifts.

She comes in and hands me a flat paper bag. There is a picture of the kids in it. Now, I LOVED it!!! But really, you couldn't go to Walmart and buy a $3 frame????You couldn't have put a freakin' bow on the bag???Writ TO and FROM..anything??? Then for my kids and their significant others, there were (1 for each couple)a small bag of M&M's(like in the supermarket checkout line)a trial size hand sanitizer, and 6 pieces of Andes mint candies, again, thrown in a paper bag. My kids who work, are in college, and pay all their own bills bought them much more thoughtful gifts than that!!!!!!These 2 are both professionals in their 30's.

I was mortified but kept my mouth shut. We ate and talked. I told her one of my best friends(who she supposedly really likes) had been diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer, my Dad was in the hospital with failing kidneys, and my friend's granddaughter had been born with a brain injury and didn't have long to live...among other things as we hadn't seen them in about 8 or 9 months(they had been invited to my dad's 90th bday party but never said yes or no, waited until an hour before and facebooked DH to tell him to say Happy Bday for them, they had plans...

Okay,we hear nothing else from them until March when we get FACEBOOKED with an EVENT for the kid's Bday party!!! Neither of their bdays is in March, it's just convenient for her. Keep in mind that I overnight mailed a gift in February to get to the kid ON his bday. 12 days later, I see her DH is on facebook and I ask, Did GS2 get his gift?? Oh yes, thank you and thanks for MY birthday card as well. I say you're welcome and end the conversation. She later facebooks a rude comment saying she hasn't had time to call and thank her dad. :jawdrop:

She still doesn't call and we tell them we cannot make the party. The other GS's bday comes and again we send a gift, again, no thank you, no call to say it was rcvd...so DH calls her. He tells her that she is very selfish and could have at least asked how my dad was or my friend or my friend's grandchild. She says, "You never take the kids overnight" He says, "We don't care about the quantity of gifts or the amt of $ spent, but you could have put some thought into it" She says "You don't take the kids..." well, you see where this is going. He ends the conversation with, The ball is in your court, we call you and you don't call back, you ignore nightshade and her family, we are always the afterthought...I love you and your family but I won't be treated like crap and I won't have you treat my wife and my family like crap.

There has been no contact since then.She blocked me and my kids on Facebook but DH says that she has been changing pics of the kids daily. I said she is waiting for a response from you. He does nothing. Last week, he gets a message..I hope YOU had a good Thanksgiving. He types, Yes, WE did.

Ah, the holidays. I called this last summer, I said she will ignore you, your calls, any contact..but come December(I was off a week)she will be trying to get back in, after all, Nightshade gives great gifts. Right honey, not this time!!How about you??? Any kids or skids that only know you around the holidays??