I am a new step mom to 4 adult boys, ranging in age from 19 to 28, all are married and there are two grandchildren, we got married 4 months ago. My new husband is 20 years older than me. He was married to someone 10 years younger than me, she passed away a few months before we met. We dated for almost 4 years and his kids were happy with me as long as I was doing something for them, cleaning, cooking, giving them money, and as long as the word marriage was not mentioned.