How do you feel about password protecting?
So just wanted to get some feeback on password protection. This is in regards to phones, computers etc. We have two general house hold computers. One upstairs in the living room area and one downstairs in the basement. Neither of these are password protected. They are both mainly used for surfing the net, itunes nothing more than that. I have a laptop and an Ipad and my Iphone all are password protected. I have all my info on these things. I have banking, personal documents, facebook, text messaging, emails and work related stuff. This travel with me every day. My rule is that my laptop, Ipad and Iphone are for my use only. BF didn't even own a computer before I moved in. I brought all the technology into the home.
Now when it comes to the kids, we have SD12 and my BS 17. My BS has his own laptop computer he takes back and forth and an Iphone. No passwords on either because that has always been my rule. I gave SD12 my old Ipod touch and she has a cell phone. Both of these she has password protected. I discussed it with BF and he doesn't like it but doesn't want to upset SD. I always took the approach of no passwords with my kids. BF and I differ on this subject and I wanted to see what other people thought.
Oh and I bring up the fact of my stuff being PW/protected because BF said "well you have all your stuff PW protected why can't SD??" :jawdrop: Maybe because I am an adult who is using my stuff for work and take it with me all the time. So in case it gets lost or stolen I don't have some stranger having access to my information. It just irks me that he always tries to put me on the same level as SD. So I don't know if my irritation over that is clouding my judgement. So yes or no on passwords? What do you all do? Thanks!!
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My kids have facebook
My kids have facebook accounts-I have their passwords-if they change their password I will not allow them access to the computer any longer. My dd14 at different times has had a password on her phone. If I see she has a password I ask her for it. She gives it to me. Kids, IMO, are not entitled to privacy from their parents.
I created a login for myself
I created a login for myself and DH on our family computer....and a separate login for SD14. Our login is password protected, and hers is not. She has a FB and we dont demand to know her password....but she is under the impression that we have a key-logger (we dont) and that we can know/get her password at any time. (we dont really care too...its a bluff...lol) She also has us both as friends as well as her BM so we can all see all of her activity. I am savvy enough I would know if she had any information blocked....and I do check periodically just be sure all is on the up and up.
My kids are allowed to PW
My kids are allowed to PW protect their electronics as long as I know the passwords. Honestly, I know DD's passwords but have rarely used them for any reason. Once when I was in a rush and my laptop was not communicating with the printer and once when I needed to make a call and she was on my cell. I think kids deserve to be treated with care and respect, but due to inexperience they do not (IMO) have an expectation of digital privacy.
Having these items is a
Having these items is a privilege and not a right. The adults should always have access and passwords to minor children's accounts. ALL acounts. I would tell your BF that it is not the content of what your SD is trying to protect that you are concerned about,(even though it may be, especially with girls these days) but that she has the means to communicate with people that may not be what they seem and the only way to protect a child from a predator is to monitor ocassionally. He certainly can't argue with that. I mean, what kind of parent would he be if he wasn't concerned for her welfare....lol
Thanks everyone for the
Thanks everyone for the input. It seems like everyone has some sort of control over kids and electronics. I think that having her remove passwords is not out of line. Just so she knows we will be able to check up on her if necessary.
Kids and adults...WTH is
Kids and adults...WTH is wrong with parents these days who believe kids have the same rights as parents.
Passwords for YOUR stuff, YES.
Passwords for kid's stuff, NO. And that includes ANY child, even if they are 18 that lives in MY home. If I pay the bills, I have a RIGHT to see what you are up to that could possibly come back to bite me in the behind. Period. Don't like it? Get out.
If you think the effect of
If you think the effect of not having password protection on SD phone will benefit SD then I would tell BD how you feel about it. BD seem to not want to be the authority that might make their kids not like them or not want to come over. Just an observation I've made at my house. In retrospect all the things I tried to institute for their own good ex. disrespectful comments/ pics on Facebook, disrespectful comments to me have all kind of blown up in my face. At the end of the day, sorry to say but there not your kids and what you do as far as laying down rules for "their benefit" are not going to benefit you at all. If your going to do this you need the full support of BD and maybe even letting him do the dirty work of telling them. That's what I do now. I'd hate for you to get where I am with your step kids just out of moral concious and BD not supporting you. Hope this was relevant.
Thank you. That sums up how I
Thank you. That sums up how I feel. BF and I parented different. Our older kids are the example of that. He thinks that as long as she is never upset he is doing a good job. As long as he does everything for her then he is doing a good job. He is slowly learning to parent. Then we have the BM who throws her crazy around on a regular basis.