So DH and I are currently living separately, not that we are separated or anything, but because he is in the process of renovating our new house and has completely torn it apart to start from scratch. So DD and I are at my parents for the time being. We are 9 hours away from each other. Our communication during this time apart has not been good, it's easier when we are living together but even then it's not great, I admit. Anyways, DH is coming down to see his son next weekend at MILs house and DD and I are expected to go to MILs too. Now here's the issue. MILs house is really small, there will be 1 bathroom for 7 people and the 4 of us (DH, me, SS and DD) share the basement which is essentially one little room. Now DD is 10 months, wakes up 2-3 times during her 12 hr sleep and is a light sleeper, and you can also imagine all the stuff I will need to bring to MILs for the baby as she has nothing at her house. DH has decided on his sown that he would stay at MILs for the whole time he's here 4 days because of SS. Ok I get that. I also decided without him that DD and I will only stay 2 days. Now DH is mad because MIL is upset that we are not staying longer. Now you should know that I love MIL, she is so great to me, we have no issues there. So I feel bad that I made her upset and she won't be seeing DD for that long. I also feel too anxious about having DD there and me being the only one that will take care of her while we are there, as DH is no help in that department. I will have to be by DD's side the whole time we are there as their house is not babyproof, she won't have any toys and she won't have any of her regular stufff( change table, Hugh chair, etc) I'm tired just thinking about it. Anyway, my question is, should I just suck it up and stay the whole weekend with DD to make MIL happy or should I just do what I was going to do? Btw I'm also upset at DH for scheduling this whole weekend without telling me and obviously did not plan to include anytime with us at my parents. This is going to be our Christmas celebration together as a family because he is going to be still working on the houses til mid jan and won't be with us at Christmas. I have suggested staying at a nearby hotel but MIL won't let us.