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Submitted by newbiestepmom25 on Thu, 06/20/2013 - 3:43pm

SS10 and SS5 keep yelling back and forth and SS10 has a bad attitude. He told SS5 he would punch him if he keeps looking at him. DH jumped in and told them to knock it off in a stern voice. That is not even why I'm pissed because ten minutes later SS sits besides me whiles I'm playing with baby and says "can you make that ugly baby stop looking at me". I sent him to his room to cool the attitude and learn some respect. He keeps just walking out of his room and ignoring DH and I. What can we do short of pyschially putting him in his room?

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Submitted by Starla on Thu, 06/20/2013 - 3:48pm

DH can make him do exercises since he has such energy to burn. It worked wonders on my Skids. Keep it positive and make it known that bad attitude means running in place for 5 minutes or whatever.

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Submitted by PeanutandSons on Thu, 06/20/2013 - 3:49pm

In my house, any one who disobeys gets another consequence added to their punishment. And will continue to get added consequences until the get themselves under control.

Bs4, for example, if he won't sit still and quiet in his time out....every time he gets up his timer starts over, every time he opens his mouth is a minute added to his time. He will test me every once in a great while, but he quickly learns that I mean business.

With a ten year old, figure out how to hit him where it hurts. Maybe every time he leaves his room once set there is an added hour (or day depending on how firm you want to be) of no electronics. He may rack up a week or two the firs time but it you stick with o your word he should take your threats more seriously.

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Submitted by hereiam on Thu, 06/20/2013 - 8:02pm

Well, I guess it's to be expected considering who (what) his mother is. I don't have any ideas for you other than taking away something he enjoys, whether it be a thing or a privilege.

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Submitted by lac925 on Sun, 06/23/2013 - 1:51pm

OMG This just happened to us today! SS11 kept bugging SD9 and BS6 all morning, calling them names and threatening them - BS6 finally had it and actually SMACKED him across the face! :jawdrop: I mean, when BS6 starts yelling at SS11 (who he usually looks up to), then you KNOW it's bad! I DID talk to BS6 about how hitting is wrong, but I don't blame him one bit!

Anyway, SS11 has gotten SO disrespectful lately, not listening and just today, I called his name to tell him not to call SD9 names, and he just plugged his ears and said "LALALALA"! :jawdrop: Well, I LOST it! You do NOT disrespect me in my own house - I don't care who your mother is! DH came out of the bathroom and gave a stern talking-to to him, and told him that if he didn't want to respect us or our house, then he can stay home the next time it's their weekend. It was a bit harsh, but SS11 needs a major attitude adjustment. He's been so f*cked up by BM that he doesn't care about anything anymore. And he thinks he's invincible - ironically, just like BM thinks she's invincible and can do whatever the hell she pleases. SS11 "has" ADHD and anger issues. He's on medication and has been to counselling, but obviously, BM doesn't care about his well-being or he'd have at least a little bit of improvement...

DH and I both agree that he needs to be in a boys' home of some sort. And if he's ever taken from his mother, that's where we'll put him!