My SO is the custodial parent of SD10. In the last couple months any time there is supposed to be a visit with BM she txt an hour or less before hand not to bring her. Theres no court ordered visitation my SO works it out between them. Well, these last few months I have been her primary care giver. Her mom has had her maybe a few days out of several months. It used to be almost half and half as she doesn't pay CS.

I'm so sick of people (no good BM in my case) who think its ok to have kids and not take care of them. I did not choose to have a child 10 years ago. I take care of MY responsibilities. I hate that my life is stress and difficult because you can't bother yourself with your own damn crotchdroppings. I am getting seriously bitter because of all that I'm asked to do that takes away from my own child and things that I need to do. I never chose to bring these children into the world. I hate that my SO doesn't see third as a sacrifice on my part.

Heres a quick version of the backstory. Met SO, preggo a few months later (oops, antibiotics). He has just gotten out of relationship with his ex who literally up and left one day took his 2 children out of the state and no way to be contacted. FF 18 months later, she comes back in the picture. SO DOES NOT tell her about me or our baby and pretty much bends to her every whim, thus her nickname golden uterus. Skids had first visit weekend before last, their next weekend visit starts tomorrow morning. He also would conveniently always talk to her away from me.

I love him so very much.
So I put up with sh*t from skids, BMs, and worst of all him. I know deep down our relationship isn't near healthy, but we are working on it. I know the skids will never get better, most likely it will get worse. If I were on the outside looking in I would tell myself to run like hell. I know that he may never see what he has in me and understand what I go through for him. I know I could do better. I know life would be simpler without him and his baggage.