So I havent been on in FOREVER!
SO has not changed, at all. He is a giant, lazy kid. He plays video games and is enjoying living off me in my house. Thats going OKAY. SD11 thinks she rules my house.
Oh, and since we are talking about SD11 she just started school this week (THANK GOD) and lately she likes to cross her arms, stomp her feet and scream at me and ] by the way, my daughter who is almost 18 months thinks its a great way to repond to me too. GREAT! SD11 peed her pants her second day of middle school. Awesome! Her mother is totally out of the picture at the moment. I had to call the police on her, twice! She is just too busy and her life is too crazy to take care of her child. No one is good enough to her daughter but she just can't bring herself to do ANYTHING for the little witch. When we used to take her over there she would instantly call my SO and tell him to come get her for some reason or another. Get this shes "taking him to court" because he abuses, neglects, and molests her but she still wants him to have her full time... WHAT!? SD11 is still my SO's "baby girl" and she knows it and uses it. Thankfully I have MOSTLY put an end to the kissing on the lips and her trying to sleep with us. My SD3 doesnt even try to sleep with us! SD11 is always going to be his favorite. She is already a nighmare, I'm terrified to see what highschool looks like.
We still get Skids 5 & 3 every other weekend. They have come around WONDERFUL to me. And get this.... SO HAS THIER MOTHER. We are actually pretty good friends. She does not even talk to SO anymore AT ALL. Everything goes through me. Which is fine with me. SS5 tell his mom that "shes my newbie and I love her so much". I know they are young and they could become nightmares when they are older but hopefully not because their mom never talks down about me to them. They are great kids. They are suprisingly well behaved. They almost respond better to me than their own father.
Life as a step is settling in. Everything is calm and easy BUT SD11 and her evil mother. I feel like a lot of SO's and my issues would not be such a big deal if it weren't for that stress on our lives. I think we would probably have a normal amount of couple issues. But right now EVERY LITTLE THING is magnified because I'm already on edge with the DAILY and constant struggles I am faced with her. Another thing that is REALLY under my skin... SO talks of marrying me and being with me forever, we are coming up on 3 years together yet he still "likes" me. Compared to his precious SD11 whom he loves more than anyone he only like me...