how many of you are required to provide a copy of your drivers license and proof of insurance to your Dh Ex
how many of you are required to provide a copy of your drivers license and proof of insurance to your Dh Ex to drive skids around? this judge has now ordered for me to do so I refuse that is information you dont freely hand out.
My Dh license is expired and he is working on getting that resolved am i wrong to not want to provide that information to the BM.
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I would do it only if the BM,
I would do it only if the BM, her BF/DH and your DH are required to do the same. If not, then DH and BM are going to have to figure out how to get your skids to and from their homes.
That is ridiculous and possibly discriminatory.
Yeah, this is ridiculous. I
Yeah, this is ridiculous. I would check into this with a lawyer. Most good ones have an initial consultation for free.
My BM tried to force me to do a whole lot of things because I drove but no judge said I had to abide by them so I did what I damn well felt like.
DHs kid is on my health
DHs kid is on my health insurance. She wanted copies of my paycheck stubs for a year to prove I've been paying for insurance.
Instead I had the HR department write a letter with the amount that is deducted each week and copies of her insurance card.
Uberskank bitched to high heaven about it but the judge accepted these documents. I flat out refused to allow her that kind of personal information.
The judge has the authority
The judge has the authority to make the order, so it sounds like either you give BM the info & drive her kids around or you don't give BM the information & you don't drive her kids around.
What happened with your DH's license? Is there history of letting insurance lapse & that's why this is an issue?
No Way!!!!!! Giving Your
No Way!!!!!! Giving Your personal info to an Ex is rediculous & provides them with Far too much info!!! Some of us (like me) with crazy coo-coo BMs wouldnt dream of making her privy to this info!! I used to be an Insurance Underwriter- and trust me when I say a Ton of Your private Info is tied to your Drivers Liscense!!! Heck. She or He can even use such info to open lines of credit, and a whole host of other things!!! Hell No!!
Why are you being asked?? Is it a crazy twisted BM whos requesting it & for what purpose? No Way!!
She provided it along with
She provided it along with her mothers but did not of other people who do drive her kids around such as her boyfriend and she is stating he doesnt drive them around when we have seen kids leave in the car with him driving from our house i have no problem providing proof to the court but i will not provide a copy to her it is insane I feel conflicted because i dont want to cause more drama to DH or have him be contempt of court.
He have always had current
He have always had current insurance on our vehicles he curently does not have a valid drivers license this has never been an issues until DH is taking her back to court and her lawyer handed DH a copy of their DL. I know many things are tied with my Dl and that is why i refuse to provide it to her
Personally, I wouldn't dare
Personally, I wouldn't dare give BM my information. But I understand that by refusing to do so I'm also not able to drive with his kids in my vehicle.
I would give up that right & let DH figure it out. He's the one who failed to keep his DL straight. It's his problem to find a solution to...without putting your information at risk.
BM is lucky she even knows my
BM is lucky she even knows my name.
Can you provide the info but
Can you provide the info but redact sensitive info? When DH and I still filed joint taxes and his tax returns were subpoenaed for court, I redacted my son's info because NOBODY had a right to know a DAMN THING about my son...ESPECIALLY a psycho BM!
there is nothing that states
there is nothing that states that i can or cannot redact sensitive information
here's what i would do - take
here's what i would do - take license, photocopy it.
take a sharpie to the photocopy, leaving name, address, and expiration date visible.
photocopy the photocopy (that way, none of the print under the sharpie will be visible.) destroy initial photocopy.
IMHO, if there's nothing saying you *cant* redact info, i'd try that route first
This!
This!
THAT WOMAN will never get any
THAT WOMAN will never get any of my personal information EVER!!! She has a history of using my DH's info for cell phone plans and cable that she never pays for and ends up on his credit history. She is not ruining my good credit!!!
Our BM never went quite that
Our BM never went quite that far but she used MY info to sign up for an account with MY health insurance provider. Meaning, she could get information on anyone who went in for anything medically related that was covered by my insurance (me, DH, DS or skids).
I got on the phone and nipped THAT in the bud as soon as I found out! NO WAY BITCH. I am the one paying for it. *I* get the account on the website. NOT you.
^^^^See I got blasted when I
^^^^See I got blasted when I said I kept Insurance, bank accounts (we have a joint for paying bills) seperate from DH. DH and I both work for the same company and could have had a family plan that would have been like $10 cheaper a pay period. He was all for it . .I was like H** no. That woman will never have access to my info. He covers himself and SD12 and I cover myself and BS12.
Girl I would have flipped my lid!
I am UBER cautious of any of
I am UBER cautious of any of my information that she can get. We cover the boys on my DH's health insurance and the new card has my name on it (we have different last names). All the information was the same as the last card just my name on the new one. They do not expire and my DH said he was not going to hand over a new card to her to use. He fears that she'd try and use my name to obtain health services on his insurance. He looks at every EOB carefully to make sure she isn't doing so. Wouldn't put it past her. She has the boys on state Medicaid just so she doesn't have to pay co-pays for the meds she has them on but won't bring them to see a Medicaid doctor, only uses the insurance to have them see their family Dr. He too made a call and locked her out of calling the insurance company, she can use the look up on their website.
My head would literally
My head would literally explode if I were at the mercy of some of these dumb ass judges.
Oh my gosh I hope our BM
Oh my gosh I hope our BM doesn't read this. This seems like the ONE thing she hasn't asked for!!! I feel for you guys!