Ok, so my fiance finally decides to tell his 32 year old S that he cannot support him, his wife and child for too much longer, not after having sent his 28 yo daughter $3000 last 2 months for divorce, and seeing more of this in future.He gave his S a job and the S is supposed to be paying off bills while my fiance is there which we found out he is not!It is a good time to have this talk (I thought 2 months ago was good but I am a little more anxious here)since his DIL just left town to deliver my fiance's 2nd car to his D, since her soon to be ex took theirs, so no grandchild running around , no DIL, just a one on one with son. Well with everything going on I have cut back financially and have mentioned several times to my boys that we are tight, that means no eating out, seeing movies etc. Meanwhile my BF to whom i was supposed to be married to and bought a big house with and i am paying all bills, his cable over here , land line, etc, he pays all bills over there for him and kids. He also takes them out to eat(and I am not talking McDonalds reguarly) and they always have quite the bar tab on top of food. Anyway i suggested a while back he cut back eating out, if he wnated them to learn to spend money properly, set an example. I just talked to him, he was very happy from the bottle of wine they had at the nice restaurant they went to,in order to discuss how to be careful with money! Is anyone else getting this ....oh and they were having their cappucino when I called!!! My homemade meat loaf was wonderful by the way that I made out of discounted groundbeef! LOL