And boy, I'm pissed about it!

SD14 is on her fourth grounding this year for consorting with inappropriate boys. In March, she was texting questions about sex to someone BM thought was a boy (SD claims not, but...) In July, she was sexting with a boy (Boy #2) after an absolute he-slut (Boy #1) broke up with her for not putting out. When BM heard about both of them, she forbade SD14 from speaking to either of them. In October, SD14 got caught IMing Boy #1. This week, SD14 got caught texting (on either BM's or her SF's phone) AGAIN to Boy #1. Nothing sexual this time but still with the "Of course I love you" bit. She sees this boy every day at school. While she was forbidden to talk to him, how much effort does it take to restrict it to school? Is she that stupid? If she IS that dumb, she's certainly going to be too dumb to figure out birth control, and I'm going to end up a (step)grandmother before I'm 40.

Now I'm going to have to stick up for BM's parenting. I don't agree with BM's method of parenting (talk about schizo!) but there is NO WAY IN HELL I'm going to put up with a teenager who in essence says, "Screw you guys, I'm going to do what I want anyway!"

I am highly resentful that I have to back up the bitch who called me "sick and wrong" for not being whackadoo religious. I'm not the mother, and BM has made sure to point that out.

SD14 has talked about coming to live with us, but at this point, Satan will need ice skates before she darkens my door permanently.

Christmas gifts are gone, other than coal. The computer is coming back to me, and we're donating it to charity. We're going to be making pointed remarks about "hide your phones, SD14 is around!" I believe she may be detailing my truck in close-to-freezing weather. She'll definitely be getting the cold shoulder from both of us. If we hadn't promised MIL we'd see her for Christmas, I would be very resentful of driving 2000 miles with gas prices the way they are!

Anybody have any other punishment ideas?