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Great therapy session regarding vacations.

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Submitted by napamom on Wed, 08/08/2012 - 9:10am

I often read posts about us stepmom’s struggling with wanting to take vacations alone with our DH’s/SO’s and our bios and not with the SKIDS. This has caused both my DH and me tremendous stress during our short 2.5 year marriage. Stress for me because going on vacation with my SD13 who hates me is zero fun and stress for him bc NOT taking her makes him feel terribly guilty. I finally brought this up to our therapist and she was amazing!

Therapist: “Your wife needs time alone with her family. SD is not her family.”

Need advice on SD bday party issue

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Submitted by napamom on Tue, 07/17/2012 - 2:13pm

Issue: SD is having a party at her mom's house and wants her dad (my DH) and her two half siblings to come (dd2 and ds6 months). She hates me so doesn't want me to come. I don't want my children to go because her mother has been awful to me and I am not comfortable having my babies there. Plus they go to bed at 7:00 pm and party is at 6.

My solution: DH goes to the party and we have something at a different time at our house for her that her two siblings can be a part of.

Is this unreasonable? DH thinks I am being unfair. Thoughts? Thanks all!

Anyone else struggle with what their "family" consists of?

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Submitted by napamom on Mon, 06/11/2012 - 1:40pm

I have 2 children with my DH and he has one of his own (SD13). I really struggle with what my family is. In my mind, its my babies and my husband. MY SD hates me, never looks me in the eye and rarely speaks to me. I know it's wrong but I cringe when my DH talks about doing family things or family pics but I just really don't feel like she is "family". Just wondering if any others feel the same way.

Thank you to all the SM's on this site!

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Submitted by napamom on Tue, 05/22/2012 - 10:37am

I have been a stepmom for 2.5 years to a now 13 year old girl. It has been the most challenging experience of my life. I am also the mother of a 2 year old girl and a 6 month year boy, with her BD. I struggled silently and felt so badly about myself for things not going well. I have tried everything to improve things to no avail. I was hopeless until I found this site. I needed a place to feel normal and understood. I love reading the situations that are so similar to mine and reading the support you all offer each other.

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