I have been with my partner for 2 years. I have a BD and he has 3 Bio kids. The problem is that he also has a SC that he is bringing up as his own. His 3 children are well rounded loving kids and I have built a strong bond with them. I thought my partner had done the same with my child also. However the step child is ruining my relationship. He is rude, has a nasty temper and is never grateful for what he has. He has the same spent on him as the other kids and is always asked what he wants for Xmas etc but within a day he is throwing tantrums because the others have something he wants!! The youngest of the kids had more items at Xmas because their presents cost less but that was unfair on him?! He is 9 and so should know better my child is also 9 and had the least number of gifts but understood why as did the others

His mother is suffering from health problems and the last two times she was hospitalised I took holiday from work to care for the kids and again he was rude and hard to control. Every week when the kids arrive at ours me and my partner fall out because this child is so difficult. He screams, tells lies and refuses to do anything asked of him. I have put up with this because he is in all ways but blood my husbands son and he kids will always be a part of me BUT last week my husband complained that my BD back chatted him. He told her off and that should have been it but he started telling me how she annoys him for having a bad appetite, crying a lot (she is struggling to cope with her dad not wanting her since he met his new partner) and a range of other issues (all of which his children have too as its usual childhood issues)

He then admitted that although he likes her he does not love her. I asked if he loves his SS the same same as his bio kids and he said yes of course which I do understand but he was only with this kids mum 3 years and as he has been in my child's life just as long why doesn't he love her too??