Do any of your bms seem like they want something to be wrong with skid?
One thing I've noticed about Bm is that she is always so quick to try to label Ss with some issues/problem. The first time I seen this was about a year and a half ago when she said she thinks he's ADD/ADHD and that she wants him on medication. Dh fought her on this one and said he didn't think that was necessary. I have a few cousins who are ADD/ADHD and I can tell you Ss is not ADD, she didn't even take him to a doctor, she just kept saying he was "too hyper and can't pay attention" and needed to get on medication. Eventually after about a month she stopped talking about it.
Recently Bm has been talking about redshirting Ss because the teacher told her that she thinks his issues with school are because he started school too soon (the cut off for school is Aug 1st and Ss turned 5 mid July so he barely made the cut off). The teacher said it's up to her but that academically he's there, he's just a bit immature. Honestly, I don't agree with it but hey, not my kid. My parents held me back and it really affected me negatively, I couldn't understand why all my friends moved ahead and I didn't even though I was doing good with my school work. To this day the only people that really know about my being held back is my immediate family and my husband because I feel embarrassed. She told Dh that she's going to get him psychologically evaluated due to this... Dh and I aren't really sure why she's having him evaluated though, when Dh questioned her she didn't seem to know either. That was wednesday and she didn't call Dh so I'm sure they told her he's perfectly normal-usually if anything happens she likes to blow it way out of proportion and have a dramatic melt down. Dh told her he doesn't think he needs to be held back. We'll see what happens...
The newest thing to come up is Bm called Dh being dramatic saying that he's dyslexic. Dh asked why she thinks this and she just said he's flipping his D's/B's. I noticed him doing this too when he was here, he was writing daniel and he wrote baniel- I didn't really think anything of it though because both of my little brothers did this when they were in kindergarten and they aren't dyslexic. From what I understand though is that most kindergartener's reverse letters/numbers because writing is so new and there is more to dyslexia then just flipping the letters the kids just need reminding. IDK.
Dh said that when he was with Bm that she regularly seen a shrink (she was 17) and most of her family's on medication, not that there is anything wrong with that, I think mental health is very important and mediation/therapy is necessary in some situations but it just seems like she WANTS something to be wrong with Ss. Do you guys ever feel like your Bm's are like this too?
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Wow, now that's sad. If
Wow, now that's sad.
If something was genuinely wrong with Ss I would totally get it but he's a very smart child. I met him when he had just turned 3 years old and even then he spoke very well, better than any child I had ever met and could recite the alphabet, count to 20 in english and spanish and his motor skills were great. If anything he seems advanced. I hope you Bm can see that your SD needs this to be addressed otherwise life is going to be very difficult for her when she grows up 
BM2 can't make up her mind
BM2 can't make up her mind with SS14
If you're talking about failing school ,shoplifting, running up $400 cell phone bills then BM2 excuse is that she thinks SS has ADD.
If you're talking about smoking pot, fighting, drinking, having sex then BM2 says "he's a normal teenager"
Although most times everything is usually DH or Daizy's fault even though for the past almost three years now we only see the kid once every couple of months or so. Guess it just depends on what day it is and kind of mood BM is in.
Oh shit, i could totally see
Oh shit, i could totally see Bm going this way with Ss when he gets older.
Oh yes, we have a certified
Oh yes, we have a certified munchausen by proxy BM in our life. She's NEVER been satisfied unless there's something wrong with the skids. The only fully documented case we had was a letter she wrote us describing my SD's visit to the doctor and a med change - which NEVER HAPPENED. Found out from the doctor himself. She just went in to him, lied about SD, and had her medication prescribed. (Yes, doctor was slapped for this - prescribing meds but not seeing patient?? That's how manipulative BM is.). The kicker is, she tried to deny it, and then claimed my husband TRICKED HER into lying to us!!!
Keep an eye on it: we've had SD has asthma - and she gave SD HER prescribed medication for it. We've had SD is bipolar and medication for years when she never was bipolar. We've had SS with bladder infection not treated till I took him to doctor, and by then it was complicated. But when I took him to one of his specialist appointments later and chatted with the doctor - BM NEVER told doctor about the original infection! He was treating SS based on a made up story! Fake allergies!!! Omg I could go on. It's scary, scary stuff. Starts small and becomes worse the more they feel out of control.
We see this all the time in
We see this all the time in my profession (education) we will get Dr. RX putting kids out of school for anxiety, or any variety of "conditions". Sometimes when I talk to the Dr. about questions or problems we are seeing, they will be totally clueless.... "Oh, mom didn't tell us that!" I often think... wow! You are taking kids out of school and prescribing drugs on account of what some nutjob parent (usually with ulterior motives) is telling you??
these parents are also really good at Dr. swapping. If one Dr. catches on to them and tells them no, then they just move on to a new victim. It's nuts!
That's crazy. I can't believe
That's crazy. I can't believe a doctor would write out a script without the patient even being present... that seems dangerous. It's strange how this seems to be a trend her with a lot of our Bm's wanting there to be issues.
Oooh yeah, I forgot that one, A while back I wrote about Ss being sick. Bm told Dh that Ss now had severe asthma and was going on and on about how distraught she was. When Dh picked Ss up, Bm had a nebulizer treatment for him. Again, my brothers had to use these things for mild asthma but only in the winter WHEN and IF they got sick. She was making it seems like he need an inhaler on him at all times because he was going to die.
Oh it's crazy and dangerous
Oh it's crazy and dangerous alright... If I didn't already know just how sick our birth mother is, I would probably have tried to get the doctors' (two of them were duped by her) licenses pulled. But I know exactly how crazy manipulative she is, so I was sympathetic to the situation she placed them in.
I actually did more damage to her by making sure the doctor and the school knew what she was doing. She's had a damn hard time in the last couple of years pulling any more of this. Fortunately, both of them are older teens now so they can speak to the doctors themselves.
Yep! The BM in my case got
Yep! The BM in my case got SD tested over and over for 'some sort' of learning disability until she found someone who caved--lots of doctor shopping. Also did a munchausens by proxy stint; getting an MRI for OSS when he tripped over his own huge feet. Tried to say it was meningitis--got Mr. Guilty Daddy all in a tizzy over that one.
Smokescreen for horrid non-parenting IMHO. Let me see. . . BFF your kid, subscribe to "my little angels right or wrong" don't require homework/schoolwork, never say NO to your kid, look the other way when kid skips school, get them on ADHD meds and anti depressants then act surprised that your oldest was thrown out of his 2nd cousins house for CHOOMING. Still with the "not my kid" and emotionally abusing them by making them your adult "shoulder to cry on." Disgusting!
oh yes!...apparently Glitter
oh yes!...apparently Glitter is what is wrong with Princess Boy....yep...me.........damn I'm good..
true...very true....
true...very true.... }:)
Yes, BM is always pointing
Yes, BM is always pointing out something wrong with the SDs. She does it because she thinks the health problems are an excuse for the kids not to visit us. She actually tried to use that when we went to mediation to have the CO changed. The mediator told her that we have a hospital nearby and that DF has cared for SD9 when she has seizures so it is not an issue. Then it was SD7 has IBS and seizures. Every time we turn around, she is running them to the doctor. She really believes that if she comes up with some diagnosis that it will be an excuse to cut their dad out of their lives. I get so disgusted with her. Maybe SD7 doesn't have IBS. Maybe its all the fast food and BS that you feed her. I wish she realized that she is doing more harm than good.
omg do we have the same Bm?
omg do we have the same Bm? lol. I'm sure Bm would be thrilled to get her hands on that medication that zonks the kid out that way she doesn't have to deal with him.
This is ss also, completely normal. The problems she has with him I firmly believe are due to parenting issues. Ss gets in trouble in school and instead of punishment she rewards him so WHY would he behave??? When he's with us there aren't issue but that's because Dh puts the smack down... well not literally but you know. If he's bad things get taken away.
Well, a lot of these
Well, a lot of these diagnoses get them money from Uncle Sam as well, esp. if they don't work a job. Such a racket, I'm a banker and it makes me sick to see my tax dollars at work.
Munchausen by proxy. DH says
Munchausen by proxy. DH says it's not THAT bad. Compared to what? The signs are all there. Nothing severe yet but definitely disturbing.
1. She complains about how she's the one who takes off work for ALL of their Dr appointments and DH never helps with any of it. Reality: the kids don't belong in a Dr's office for 90% of these "ailments". The kids are "sick" at least 3-4 times a month. She loves making these appointments.
2. SD got braces for no reason. Of course she found an orthodontist who said it was necessary though. This one is borderline, self esteem issues and all. But now SS? It's his turn for braces. Wtf? Not only are there no real medical reasons for him to have them, he hasn't even got a single crooked tooth. Ugh.
3. She loses her mind when the kids forget to take their BAG FULL of medicines to our house for the weekend. Most of these are otc's for crying out loud. There are prescription drugs and inhalers in there but I haven't really seen any bad breathing problems, even in the height of allergy season.
4. When we are told the kids are "sick", they've been just fine the whole time they are with us. They get "sick" again when they go back home. We must have a MAGIC house! I should charge admission for the healing powers it contains.
5. She enjoys taking about sickness, injuries, and ailments. The kids are old enough that they should be granted privacy about their bodies and yet she still tells all. SHE WAS IN THE EXAM ROOM FOR SD'S FIRST PAP EXAM! Sorry about the screaming caps but DAMN, that is so very wrong.
BM once tried claiming that
BM once tried claiming that SD was retarded so she could get disability benefits for her. She was denied.
SD does have a slight learning disability but it could have been addressed with some extra help & tutoring. But BM refused to do that.
She has always said SD will need to live with her forever because she's just not capable of being on her own. And at 22, she's not capable because BM has made sure of it.
She also once caused SD to have a seizure by giving her an OTC med that she knew SD was allergic to. This was in attempt to get my DH to go back to her. Thankfully, she didn't do it again.
Is BM a real munchausen by
Is BM a real munchausen by proxy or was she just trying to go for the maximum allowable time for receiving CS? I know some states make NCPs pay CS for adult children.
She is not a real Munchhausen
She is not a real Munchhausen by Proxy, thank God.
She was trying to get money from the state and yes, trying to keep CS going as long as possible.
When she caused SD to have a seizure, she was trying to get DH to go back to her. I was worried that she would keep doing it but she didn't.
My husband thinks she did cause another incident when SD was about 2. It was pretty serious and my DH doesn't see how it could have happened without BM doing it herself. His gut feeling is usually correct and when he confronted BM about his suspicions, she laughed. She didn't proclaim her innocence or get upset about what happened, she laughed. Psycho bitch, seriously.
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