So when Dh took Bm to court (for VERY standard requests which will end up costing us roughly 6 thousand dollars because BM refused to agree to anything outside of court) he requested to pick up Ss every Friday at 5pm from Bm's home and for Bm to pick Ss up from our home every Sunday at 5pm. Well Bm had some bullshit story about how her fiancé had to work every other weekend from 6am to 6pm thus she just couuuulllllddddnn'tttt do any of the exchanges. Well the Judge said tough luck, you need to figure something out because she needed to do half the transportation. So she pushed a little and ended up asking the judge if she and Dh could change it to 4oclock every drop off/pick up to accommodate her fiancé and instead of Dh picking Ss up-Bm would drop Ss off every friday at 4 at our house and Dh would drop Ss off at 4 on Sundays at her house. WELLLL yesterday when Ss arrived Bm walked him to the door and told Dh that her Dh's schedule is changing so and she said she can't drop Ss off at 4 anymore because they only have 1 car…HER car, mind you, and asked Dh to work with her. Well this chick is asking to drop ss off at like 8pm on Fridays. Dh told her "I don't think I can do that" and Bm responded "well it's either that or I can't bring him" and Dh looked at her said "Um, you HAVE to bring, that's what in the court order" he said she seemed to get nervous and was like "oh well.. I mean.. I know, i have to bring him, I Just don't want to have to ask my mom for help" She then started trying to say the court order didn't have a specified time and Dh corrected and "Yes Bm, the time in the court is 4" and then she started saying that judge said that they need to work together and that he has to agree. Dh didn't want to argue with her and so he kind of left it at that and didn't really give her answer.

What do you guys think of this? Dh isn't happy at all that she's wanting to change the drop off time from 4pm to 8pm. The kids go to bed at like 8:30 so she's heavily cutting into his time. I just don't understand why she can't figure it out and wake up and take her husband to work, I mean she doesn't work so what the fuck. There were times when she told Dh she couldn't take Ss back on a Sunday and demanded that we take Ss to school in their town almost an hour away. What did we do in order to avoid her threatening to withhold Ss for the next visitation? I woke my ass up at 6am and took that kid to school in the middle of winter with my newborn so that my husband could go to work. This is the same girl that when Dh asked if she could just please meet him at the mall that was 10 min from her house so we could avoid driving even further down the long dirt road to where she was living at the time-her response was "Yeah, give me 20 dollars and I'll do it" pssh.. and NOW she wants to him work with her AND take away from his visitation? I don't even know what to think. Dh says he doesn't want to change the drop off time but he doesn't know what will happen. What if he tells her no and she just drop Ss off at 8 anyway? Do we file a police report? It just pisses me off because that's why we went to court-for structure for consistency and what's going on now? This bitch is trying to alter things left and right in her favor. She didn't want to work with Dh before the court but now she wants him to work with her? What do we do? Is there really anything he can do to make sure she still drops him off at 4? What does Dh even do if she starts showing up at 8pm?