So I have a question. Our attorney said that we should just agree to give BM legal and physical custody and just fight for visitation. Since SD had no memory of DH even though that's the mothers fault our attorney said we should just come to an agreement for visitation and therapy and then go back after we have had time with SD and then ask for 50 percent legal custody...Anyways we were just at therapy and SD said she had to go to the hospital last month and had to get three shots and one of them was in her back. We asked her what happened and she said she didn't know but it was really painful and had to be wheel chaired to the car because it hurt so much she couldn't walk....So my question is, does BM have to at least tell us when stuff like that happens or do we have to get that court ordered. Now BM does not answer DH emails and will not give DH a phone number so now there is no way to contact her unless we go through the therapist, which then costs us more money.