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FDH had mediation today with crazy BM

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Submitted by motherof_2plus1 on Wed, 10/25/2017 - 2:41pm

Mediation went horribly for FDH. BM presented a plan that would mean FDH had even LESS time with SD. Obviously he said no to that and offered other ideas but she said no to everything that was said. No budging at all for her.

Also accused him of hiding money and demanding he pay more.... Child support just got increased at this mediation as well to just about double the amount he was paying. She even told the judge that i have it out for her.

Destination Wedding

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Submitted by motherof_2plus1 on Thu, 10/12/2017 - 1:41pm

With FDH and I's wedding coming up in just under a month, he filled out a travelers request form and tried to hand it of to her last night at PU. All she needs to do is sign it and approve that SD4 can come.

She refused and said ohhh no that will have to be in a court order. Even though they have both signed off before for travelling with SD, never had to be a court order.

Lawyer requesting my income and assets

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Submitted by motherof_2plus1 on Fri, 09/29/2017 - 3:56pm

So FDH met with lawyer yesterday and was asked several questions about me and what I make and my assets.

I refused this info and said I'm not comfortable providing that. They revised the docs to just show FDH's income and assets he has. Why would this even be requested? Could this work to our benefit? I wonder if BM's lawyer is asking for it.

I remember seeing a post on here that said a judge based CS off of SM's income as well. Since FDH has some more cushion with my income. This scaaaared me and I do not want that happening.

Talk with DH about allegations didnt go so well...

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Submitted by motherof_2plus1 on Thu, 09/28/2017 - 10:46am

I HAD to have a convo with DH outlining my issues and concerns surrounding all of this and he completely lost it. Told him I'm concerned that my kids may be questioned for totally fabricated allegations.

Accused me of only worrying about myself and my kids and don't I care about him and what hes going through?

Ummmmmm what?? He shut down totally and conversation ended. Guilted me and had me thinking.... am I overthinking this and being dramatic? Should I just shut up and not bring my worries to him? Was I wrong to do this?

Why do I have the craziest BM !

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Submitted by motherof_2plus1 on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 11:35am

Soooo recently it has been brought to my attention that SD4 is telling BM that I am hitting her.... This is what BM is saying of course. She sent FDH a video of SD talking about me and how mean and rude I am to her and that she doesn't like me.

FDH had a talk with SD after he saw this video and showed her the video and said this is what Mommy sent to me. Asked her why she doesn't like me... her response; because mommy doesn't and because she hits me.

Bonding with SD4

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Submitted by motherof_2plus1 on Mon, 09/25/2017 - 11:36am

Since getting custody back in place with SD4, I have found an obvious strain on my relationship with her. For me I am okay with it and have 100 other things to worry about - job, kids, wedding - but DH has made comments that she doesn't come running to me or like me as much as my kids do to him.

I have made a serious effort of trying to create a bond with this little girl but each and every time I am met with a WALL.