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Favoritism & apathy (I expected better from SIL)

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Submitted by MorningFlower on Sat, 01/29/2022 - 7:42pm

SIL has known for 3 years that ours baby "exists" and only came to see him once, that was last June. She stopped by to visit SO's kids first at mil's and then she came by to our place with her bf, the skids and mil. I was ambivalent because it was short notice—we found out that same afternoon that she was coming over— I hadn't met her but she had been acting like her youngest nephew didn't exist for 3 years now despite acknowledging the other nephews and nieces. She's been present since birth for both of SO's kids and BIL's kids.

Major Update—BM moved to GA with the Skids

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Submitted by MorningFlower on Tue, 10/19/2021 - 10:27pm

I haven't posted in a while, because things had been relatively calm. Visits had become a lot less stressful although I was still wary because I just don't trust SS. My oldest BS and I had been subjected to the worst of the worst from him since he was 6 years old and only about a year ago did things start to change. Slowly. I made numerous blog entries about this. SS would bully and pick on my oldest mercilessly. My eyelid would twitch—no, really twitch before, during, and after each visit from the anxiety and stress that I was going through.

Dreading this weekend

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Submitted by MorningFlower on Sun, 07/19/2020 - 11:26am

Welp
That was fast.
Yelling and screaming phone call with SO, BM and Mil.
We're having a heat wave and she still plans on going out with bf who has no AC in the car.
She wants to bring SS who is asthmatic and SO told her no.
She said she still wants to because she's afraid mil might lash out again.
Then SO left because SS was told to shower and keep cool to be safe and he's giving them a hard time.

She flipped her lid! (mil)

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Submitted by MorningFlower on Sat, 07/18/2020 - 8:56pm

Last night SO got a phone call from BM (she and skids live with mil). Mil was drunk and scaring the kids. SO left, and I've posted a basic recap below. 

 

>He didn't get home until 2:40am. Yup.

>MIL had been hitting and trying to hurt BM and she scratched SO multiple times when he was there

>Cops were called, they gave her a warning

 

>She was ranting about how SO "doesn't get it" and how she's sick and tired of doing everything

 

Oppositional Defiant Disorder

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Submitted by MorningFlower on Thu, 06/04/2020 - 12:30pm

I am looking to hear suggestions and testimonials about having skids with ODD and if/when it evolved into conduct disorder.  How did you cope?

As many things as you want to share with me for the sake of support and venting if needed, I'm here for that too.

My SS 10 has ODD and I suspect it's turning into conduct disorder as his actions are becoming more brazen.

That's it

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Submitted by MorningFlower on Mon, 10/22/2018 - 12:24am

Just had our most recent visit. It was my last chance to see how things would go this time before going for the alternative. Well let's just say I've seen enough and my son filled me in on the rest & I am going to wait a bit before I push for father and son only visits without my son around. 

For this misery & stress he could be at Grandma's house having fun.

I haven't been on this site for long, and I can't give you all the back story because nobody has time for that but I have every reason to be fed up. 

I'm not the one

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Submitted by MorningFlower on Sun, 10/14/2018 - 1:24pm

Serious problems here regarding SS8 and how he treats my son. We're going on two years of bad behavior, bullying and just plain nastiness . He's thrown stuff at him, yelled in his face, snatched, it goes on and on .

Mil defends her favorite grandchild's behavior so much. "He acts out because he's hurt." But why are they giving him a free pass to treat my kid like this? I'm not happy about it at all.

I get so much anxiety when this kid is about to visit, my eyelids twitch and I can't concentrate on tasks. I try to cope but nothing seens to be working.