The crisis worker came on Sunday. She did her interview with SD and determined that she's not suicidal.
She said that she is not allowed to tell us what they talked about, but she is allowed to tell us one thing that SD was said ok....
Turns out that SD13's main stressor and the reason she's having so many issues lately is because of BM's boyfriend!!! Oh really BM....would you look at that...it appears as though its NOT our fault! Told ya! Bitch!

Now, who knows if that's actually true or not. Saturday SO took SD home to pick up something and she walked in the house and saw BM and her boyfriend in bed together. Apparently naked. She was pretty pissed and apparently all BM said was "Hi".
So later on she told me she doesn't like BM's boyfriend and he's annoying and he gives her a hard time and he tells her what to do and has been doing all the disciplining. He took her phone and internet away for 2 months because she was talking back to BM. This guy is new...he's only been around for like 6 months. WTF is he doing disciplining her???

Anyways, I asked SD why she suddenly doesn't like him because a couple weeks ago she was saying he was great. All she said was "I was wrong". So who knows if he really is an asshole or if shes just pissed because she caught them in bed. Either way, the social worker said its completely inappropriate for him to be handing out punishment since he doesn't even live there, and she is going to call BM and tell her that.
I guess SD mentioned the meeting and the stuff about her Boyfriend when she went home Sunday because BM texts immediately and says "I need to talk to this social worker. SD didn't tell her everything. Shes lying. She loves boyfriend when hes buying her stuff or taking her out places".
Ofcourse she does! Shes 13!! 13 year olds love people who buy them things. That doesn't make him any less of an asshole! And it doesn't make you any more of a mother because you get your douche bag boyfriend of 6 months to parent your kid!

So going forward, we have to call and make an appointment with the social worker for ongoing treatment for SD and the wait to get her into a program is up to a year. GREAT!!! Another year before we get any actual help. Fuck. My. Life.