I'm BM to three kids and SM to three, though I only really count one these days.

DH & I have been married for seven years, together for almost 12. I came along when his oldest was about 16 and she was living with him. That didn't go over well with her at all. I disengaged and let him handle her, which resulted in her leaving after she graduated high school & telling everyone he kicked her out (not true). That left him with two younger kids from another marriage, who visitied us whenever it suited their mother. She moved them place to place, man to man. I tried to get along with her for the sake of the kids, but finally told her one day that we will just have to agree to disagree. She put hateful stuff about me on the internet, along with my phone number so men would call me. She tried to help my ex get custody of my oldest child. She called the cops on us for failure to return the kids (again not true), she harrassed DH & I both and drug him through court for more money every chance she got.

Back in 2008, the middle child (13 at the time) called us out of the blue one evening & asked if she could come live with us. I was hestiant, as was DH, but we agreed. Her mother was moving yet again & she hated her, wanted nothing to do with her, etc. As you can guess, that was a mistake.

A year later, her younger sister (11 yrs old) called out of the blue (we hadn't seen her in almost two years at this point) wanting to visit for a week in the summer. She brought an awful lot of stuff with her for just the week, which alarmed me. Right before she went back, she asked if she could stay. Turns out BM & her new hubby had been arrested & were going through a bunch of legal stuff.

Both have lived with us since then, not visiting their mother or having much contact with her at all. BM invites them to visit (she lives a couple of hours away in another state) & then like clockwork then picks a fight with them right before they were to come & the visit wouldn't happen. The middle child turned 18 the end of last year & moved out on her birthday & in with her older half sister. She didn't tell us anything...left while I was cooking dinner right in front of me. I can honestly say that was the best thing to ever happen to us. She was moody, hateful, hard to get along with, selfish...you name it. She has chosen not to speak to us anymore, including the older daughter now. Neither claim our youngest child (who is ours together). BM is now back in the picture, since we are out & is paying for her cell phone and buying stuff. Fine by me, it's about time she did something. And of course BM doesn't realize that SD18 is just using her.

The younger child still lives with us & is so much easier to get along with. I'm still scared deep down she will do the same thing to us, though she claims she never would.

I could go on & on with all the things BM has done or that we've been through for those kids, but I'm sure everyone has been through something similar. Happy to find a place to vent