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Submitted by mommyof6 on Sat, 01/30/2010 - 10:38pm

I joined this site for help with the EX. She put a restraining order on me and I have yet to even meet her. I have had one phone conversation with her that lasted about sixty seconds and have text her maybe three times. I have never said anything out of line or downgraded her to her children. I am in the process of fighting the restraining order but everything she does just keeps adding up on a daily basis. She is a huge liar, drama queen and uses her children to get at us. She denies visitation when it suits her and threatens cops whenever she doesnt get her way. She has no problem creating false reports regardless of how they might ruin our life. I am a loss on what to do or how to live this way...anyone help? Please don't tell me to leave him...I have waited my whole life for him....Im not walking away.....

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Submitted by ubrngoutdbitchnme on Sat, 01/30/2010 - 11:16pm

SO ex also tried getting a temporary protective order on us. Uhm, my SO has full custody of his kids. We went to court and it was hilarious watching her get sworn in and her just lie out of her ass. My SO had said that she was going to try to use the court date to talk about skids and sure enough she did. She started out with "I'm trying to save money to buy a house for my kids" Okay, I guess that explains why she wasn't paying child support. She lied and lied and lied. It was a good thing my SO had his attorney with him. When the BM started talking about the skids, SO attorney told the judge that BM didn't even have custody of them (BM was making it sound like she did) that she was court ordered supervised visits which she didn't follow through with and she had to pay child support which she also didn't pay. Of course the BM did not get her TPO but it sure was interesting seeing her in the act. She even tried acting as if she didn't know how the court procedures went when she was sworn in.

Why in the world did the ex put a restraining order on you when you two have never even me!?!

CP

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Submitted by Rags on Sun, 01/31/2010 - 2:03am

File a false police report complaint against her for lying to the police, get an attorney and sue her for harassment and any thing else you can think of. The only way to deal with a bully is to "punch them in the nose". She is being a bully so smack the crap out of her vigorously and often until she leaves you alone.

By "smack" I mean in court. Even though literally busting her in the nose may feel good ultimately it is counterproductive.

It took a while but eventually we got BioDad and the SpermClan under control. Every time they crawl out from under their rock we roll up the Judgement and beat them about the head and shoulders with it. The go in to their toothless whine and crawl back under their rock until they convince themselves that they are smart enough to try to mess with us again.

Learn to enjoy kicking her ass in court. I think of it as a sport. I am Gold medalist in that sport and I truly enjoy it. Enjoying it is better than letting them get to you.

Good luck and best regards,

Success is rarely final. Failure is rarely fatal. It is character, courage and consistency of effort that count. Vince Lombardi (with some minor Rags modifications) To each according to their performance, screw Karl Marx. (Rags)

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Submitted by mommyof6 on Tue, 02/02/2010 - 9:57pm

The ex put a restraining order on me three days after her oldest (15 years old) decided she wanted to live with us. Nothing about this has been easy. We have a happy life, no drama, no fighting, no arguing. I would almost swear we were made for eachother. His two that live with us (17, & 15) have completely settled in. They get along great with my three girls and finally can I say we are all thriving together. I know in my heart these two teenagers need stability, less drama and someone to depend on. They comment all the time about finally feeling wanted and accepted and like they fit in. The both have a horrible relationship with thier mom...(his ex) I have not done anything to this woman. I do not scream in the background of his phone calls when she calls me names, I don't disagree when he agrees to things with her that I know are not right. I never stand in the way of their communication. This is 100% wrong for her to file a restraining order. She didn't want me in the vehicle when he picked up or dropped off the girls so she made sure I couldn't be. I am not allowed to go to the girls sporting events, even though they live with me. This has made things miserable. She calls everyday with new lies. She always texts him about not being a man and living in sin with me. We do not harrass her, as a matter of fact, perfer no contact at all with her. She uses the kids, refuses to let us have the youngest if she doesn't get what she wants at that moment. Has agreed to drop the protection order for 1500.00 but wont sign the paper work. It is constant with her..... Wont she ever stop? Why do people waste thier life like this?