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8 years in, and mom still sicks

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Submitted by mommy123 on Tue, 11/29/2011 - 1:44pm

My SD birthday was Sunday, her mom has been MIA since August. She has not called or came to get her. She is not on drugs,and all summer she had her step children. While I'm at home with her child. Well we received a card in the mail for her daughter. We gave it to her, but she was looking for a call. Her mom leaves right around the corner, and she never called. My SD said everyone called me, even my friends from school, but not my mom. I wanted to go over there and cuss her out. I could you do your own child like that. Shes not on drugs or nothing. SUCH A Bitch, what mother in there right mind would do that to there child.

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Doesnteatcrow's picture

Submitted by Doesnteatcrow on Tue, 11/29/2011 - 1:56pm

Remind her that her mother is her family not her fault! Hard concept to digest but it will help her in the long run!

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Submitted by Stressed Out Mom on Tue, 11/29/2011 - 2:03pm

That must be very hard for you to see her in pain. Sorry you have to see that.

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Submitted by Jsmom on Tue, 11/29/2011 - 3:00pm

Just be there for her. It was a hard realization for my SS when he realized that his mom really didn't care about him. But, once he did, he just handles the visitation and waits for it to be over and ultimately when he turns 14 next year, it is over. It breaks my heart that she just doesn't get this kid. But, he has me and DH and ultimately he will be fine. Just keep telling yourself that. These BM's never get it...

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Submitted by Lauren1438 on Tue, 11/29/2011 - 3:39pm

Be there for her. Our BM just took off and we get the "Wheres mommy" everyday then it is usually followed by a screaming melt down of some kind. I wish that the girls were older and could completely understand but we are so lucky.

Try explaining to her that sometimes adults get their priorities messed up and loose site of whats important in life. Her mom my realize eventually that she messed up and she may not. The important thing for your SD is that she knows that she is loved and that she is cared for. After all any woman can pop out a kid but it takes a special type of person to be a mom.