Medical Bills that come in like clock work!
I am sure many of you out there have the same problem as this.... My DH pays child support to 2 different people, well maybe not the 2 BM problem. We have always paid support before it was due and never shorted either of the BM's their money. Insurance is covered, etc. etc. etc. BM #2 wanted extra money each month, which we are paying and that is not court ordered, but she said the little extra would help out. Ok, that has been for the past few years. Well, anyway now she wants to hit us up with extra bills. SD does qualify for state asst for medical due to BM's income, but evidently she didn't renew it. Go figure that one. BM #1 was sending us medical bills weekly and when I say weekly I mean weekly. She was making sure to take that SD to the doctor when she had a splinter in her finger, not really but I'm sure you get the picture. Petty bills for $3.00 and $6.00 and wanting us to reimburse half, so we reimbursed her the $1.50 and the $3.00 for those 2. The rest were huge bills, I think two emergency room and of course SD has braces that she hit us up with, which SD does not take care of, being she is not old enough to have them yet, but hey BM knows only 3 years of support left so she had to get the braces in there before time is up. And there were many other bills. So, anyway I was soooo sick of opening the mailbox and finding things with her name on it that we called the 10 medical facilities and paid all of our half. It just gets under my skin how people can be. Myself as a BM I don't send my son's dad any bills. He carries insurance and he pays child support. If I can't afford to pay the co-pay of $20.00 then I need state asst as well for my son's medical insurance. So, what my DH suggested is that the extra money we send outside of the court order every month will go towards the medical bill reimbursement for BM#2 now. After all she stated that she paid 4k for SD's day care for the year up front, so why in the world would we continue to send extra outside the court order anyway? We want to be civil and be nice, but when it comes to money and of course, our money that BM is receiving it's give give give. I am so sick of the give give give; however, I am glad that BM#1's support will stop in a few years!
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Why continue to pay BM#2
Why continue to pay BM#2 extra above what is in the divorce agreement? I would cut that off first. And you're right, if she can't afford the co-pays for SD, she should get on a medicaid program. She sounds petty for fussing over a $3 and $6 bill! Being that the skids are under 18, they still need the coverage, but why is she (DH) paying extra for it if she's eligible for medicaid?
BM#2 has not been a headache
BM#2 has not been a headache up until now. SD is 4 going on 5 and BM is finally starting to be a pain in the butt. I was wondering how long it would take. She has recently been married and since then it has been the dumbest most petty things imaginable. Instead of being happy that SD has a stable environment here and happy that she is loved and wants to be with us, she tries everything to make it miserable. Just another way for BM to do so I guess. Anyway, I am not going to worry with it. I am going to pay the bill and definitely stop sending the extra that is not court ordered. It is just unreal to me being I do not bother my ex at all. I guess I am secure with myself and my life and have no need to aggravate he and his wife.
LOL, I hear you loud and
LOL, I hear you loud and clear on that. We get the same thing as well.... well we used to get the same thing.
BM was straight harrassing DH for his half of 7.50 co-pays for meds.... Then was lying about the amount the doctor charges claiming at times meds were 80 - 120 and the doctor appts 20 - 60.
So we called the insurance company and started verifying.... It was all a lie. Then since she kept right on complaining and sending stupid emails..... we told her to produce the receipt from either the doctor's office or the pharmacy like the court order stated and then DH will pay her back within the 60 day time frame as given on the court order.
Since then we have not heard a thing. Plus the judge made sure she understood.... that DH is only responsible for 1/2 of un-covered medical expenses. Not co-pays and prescriptions like the court order states. Told her DH was being very nice to her and she should not have even brought that mess to court.
********She doesn't have to love me or even like me - it doesn't change a dang thing..... So get over it and move on BM!************
Gosh, I thought we were the
Gosh, I thought we were the only ones with the ridiculous receipts coming in. BM#1 lied about the same thing, so my ins co now emails me the bill that was filed and if she pays for something other than that then we expect a cleared check. We will not reimburse anything without that.
Did I read this right? You
Did I read this right? You have 3 years left to pay on SD (which would make her 15) but she's not old enough for braces? Really?
Let me clarify... She is
Let me clarify... She is old enough physically, but mentally no. SD is 14, almost 15, but she is behind. Now that is not her fault, but she is and it's a sad situation, very immature. Too long to explain. Anyway, the dentist said no gum, no steak, tough meat, hard candy, etc.. The norm for braces. Well, SD says she is going to eat it and doesn't care if the braces break. Hmmm.... Wonder who will get stuck with half of that bill....
Ok that makes more sense to
Ok that makes more sense to me.... SD14 just got her braces off after nearly 2 years in them and SD stb11 just got off her FIRST set. When it's all said and done, SD stb11 will have right at $10,000 put in her mouth. SD14's was $5800. Braces take a hit in the pocketbook for sure. HOWEVER, our ortho here told the girls straight up if they didn't properly care for them he would take them off, and he means it! They both had UGLY UGLY teeth and were so thankful to get braces to fix it that they took good care of them.
My SD14 is a little on the
My SD14 is a little on the spoiled bratty side of things and really doesn't care. I am sure she has broken them since, but we did inform BM, being we paid our half off without her monthly installment plan, that any extra expense incurred would be her responsibility. We have not received a bill, but I do know that SD has broken them a time or two. Whether or not the ortho charged for that I don't know..... These were very expensive too. SD's teeth were in pretty bad shape, but she still doesn't worry about it and she will be wearing them for 4 years. I don't know if that is typical or what, but it seemed a little extreme to me. First experience with braces though, and I hope none of the other kids need them!
I can't imagine a kid not
I can't imagine a kid not caring that her teeth were getting fixed! Blows my mind!!! SD14 couldn't quit thanking us (well me in particular because I'm the one that pushed it) for helping her get a pretty smile! SD stb11 has a long road ahead of her too as they had to widen her jaw and completely reshape it.... ugh! Poor kid!
I am assuming that the half
I am assuming that the half braces is in his divorce degree or he just agreed? In my state braces are cosmetic and we only half to pay half if WE agree. BM has to pay for the entire bill if she wants SD to get them.
We couldn't afford to put braces on my DH or are we going to be able to for BSs.....if we could afford it we would do it---we just can't.
Oh yes it is court ordered.
Oh yes it is court ordered. My DH was divorced when he was 17 and was only married to that BM for 9 months total. So, the divorce decree is VERY old. But nevertheless it is court ordered. We paid half and are done with braces for SD14. Now BM two, which he was never married to, has put SD4 in glasses and will be sending her bill. But whatever. I can't stress over it. We are going to do what we think is the right thing and if either BM doesn't like it then oh well. Me on the other hand, I give my ex no problem at all nor do I give him medical bills so he can pay me back half of the co-pays. Health and dental insurance are very expensive by themselves, which my BS's stepmom covers BS to save on costs, but it is excellent insurance and the ex pays child support and is never late, like we are never late to either BM, but for some reason they continue to want more.
Oh so that was in during the
Oh so that was in during the divorce, you will have to pay half then. But for SD4 you don't have to pay half of her braces should she need them in the future.
After talking to our lawyer he said since there was no marriage just half medical. Braces are cosmetic, we do not have to pay half. SD said the other day "my mom says you have to pay half it is the law" not so. BM thinks that becuz he BD payed half (her parents are divorced), I am sure it was in the divorce degree. Let me say that if we could afford it and really thought she needed them (she doesn't BTW) then we would pay half. Her dentists says she does, well my dentists said I do too, no one has straighter teeth than me! They straighten out when kids are older (sd is just 10).But we can barely pay the bills, CS is killing us! We couldn't afford to put braces on my H or my BSs, why should SD get special treatment? If BM wants her to have braces then fine she can pay for them, IMO. I know she can afford it.
There was a divorce with
There was a divorce with BM1, but BM2 there was no marriage and no divorce, just one of those things that happened one night. My DH didn't even know if SD4 was his until a DNA test. We pay support to both BM's and it is enough to support the children and for both BM's to pay for braces themselves. BM1 is going to get what she can though. BM2 is turning out to be that way.... I just pray for SD4 to live with us in the near future. I would not hound BM2 for any child support nor would we hound her for medical bills. When SD4 lived with us we NEVER sent BM2 bills when we took SD to the doctor nor did we send her receipts for med's. But hey, I guess different strokes for different folks, I do believe that kharma comes around though.
It sure does.
It sure does.