I'm having a hard time with this one ... my SO has turned me into a clingy, overbearing nag... or at least that's how he's making me feel.

I have 2 boys, 5 and 7 1/2. We moved in with my SO last year, So we see him every day, yes. He drives to see his kids SS13 and SD12 every Tuesday and Thursday to take them to dinner, sports, etc and then hangs out at their house until BM comes home. Also every other Friday, Saturday, and Sunday they stay here with us (although they've been here every weekend for 4 weeks ugh kill me).

Here's my issue ...

Despite my best efforts, and constant "nagging" as its turned into because nothing seems to get through the first time, SO cannot seem to grasp the idea of BLENDING our families. I want us to all do things together when Skids come so that mine do not feel left out (and I suppose visa versa) and so that everyone learns to get along and learn they ARE going to be around each other from now on.

To me my expectations are not too high. I don't go out of my way to make plans with my kids, excluding Skids when they stay the weekend, and I expect the same courtesy. I, however, seem to be the over dramatic a$$hat that makes a big deal out of nothing.

SO excuses his kids behavior by reminding me constantly of the age gap between our kids, and that they need "Daddy time" (which btw to them is only enough if he's spending $$$ on them). He feels that "tweens" don't ever want to hang around little kids and he needs to plan specific things around his kids.

For instance, I walk with the dog and my 5 year old to pick up 7 1/2 year old from school every day. When Skids are here, they want to take dog (who they refuse to feed or let out, leaving completely to my kids btw) for a walk with their dad and "no not 5 and 7 1/2 year old, they're too slow, why do they ALWAYS have to come!?" SO will tell me it's too much to bring my kids, and leave for over an hour with his.

Or SO will go to his parents house for the day with his kids, and leave myself and kids home because "Skids want to go play with their cousins". Or leaves us home when he goes to SS13's games over an hour away (taking approximately 6 hours after travel, game time, and stopping for food). He claims it's too much or too expensive for all of us to go. He feels things like this are okay because WE see him every day ...

I feel his kids noticing things like this and whining more and more about EVERY SINGLE LITTLE THING having to do with myself or my kids lately.

Ughhhh am I crazy for feeling like he's fueling their desire to "keep him all to themselves" and working against me to BLEND our families!?