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Submitted by mollygreen22 on Mon, 06/17/2019 - 12:09pm

I always said that i didnt feel or was ready to leave my releation ship because of the issues we are having with the SK.   I dont know if im in just a bad place but i feel like ive completely given up.  My SS is only 10 and i cant stand that kid so much i dont speak with him dont try to engage and just lock myself in my room when he comes over.   I dont know if im worn out from trying or just done.  My DH just cannt seem to disipline him and he really is becomming a bad person,  I mean nobody wants to be around this kid.  My DD, his cousins, aunts uncles just cant understand why my DH is allowing him to be suh a disrespectful brat.  He parents out of guilt and I feel like ive completely given up trying to have some control over my house,  and always ending up being the bad guy or im jut treating HIS son differently.  I dont know if this was just a horrible weekend with him or if im really just done with it all.  Has anyone else felt like this? 

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Submitted by shamds on Mon, 06/17/2019 - 12:42pm

sd’s live on their own in another state and have been alienated by vindictive hcgubm. Ss who lives with us when not at university has told his dad he is not wrong for ignoring and not acknowledging me with a basic hello. Many times he was after something only i know where it is and he will pretend i am not there and ask his dad who has to ask me and relay back to ss.

ss has also told his dad he is incapable of being affectionate to our 2 toddlers (his half siblings) so don’t force him. My husbands family including his niece and nephews can’t understand how ss can be this way because to all of them i am family, my kids are family so how is it someone more related by blood says and treats us 3 as not family.

this shunning my husband said he got the same treatment after the divorce and he was so overwhelmed he never addressed it. Ss has justified this as him not wrong, that i am stranger and make him uncomfortable to say a basic hello yet his 1st cousins we always catch up and talk casually no issues whatsoever

2sd’s are miniwives and do whatever they want to my toddlers no matter how stupid, reckless, out of line or disrespectful. They are spies for their mum and report everything which is such an invasion of our married life, boundaries and privacy so i have stayed away from any meets with them....

i have removed myself from them and focussed on my studies, disengaging and going about my life is great. Since 3skids have done nothing but shun us and play imaginary happy family and manipulate daddy, are incapable of making an effort to come to our home for meets etc. Have shown they want no relationship, i don’t let hubby sucker me into this “one big happy family idea” he is into currently. He’s in major denial...

why waste your time for these kinds of people, they treat you like shit and their dad wants to coax you or invite you to meets under the disguise of quality family time?? Nah not happening

 I don’t see my kids ever wanting a relationship with any of these skids, the way they treat their dad, me, my kids, why would they want one just because they are partially related by blood... ss gave eye rolls when my inlaws asked about our new born daughter, my bil caught him out on that behaviour 

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Submitted by Siemprematahari on Tue, 06/18/2019 - 10:58am

Molly I think you're getting close to the DONE stage.....you will know because it won't be a question but an actual statement. You are being drained but depending on your tolerance level once you are FED up you'll be done and over it.....no questions asked. Just know that if your H is not doing anything to support and remedy the situation that it will NEVER get better and you can be reassured to continue this way for the duration of your marriage.