Hi this is my first post! So bear with me! And thanks for listening.
I am a BM to BD33 and BS36. SM to Skids 44,42 and 40.
i married DH 2years ago. All the skids were very happy that DH had found someone at last.
Then SD42 decides to do a 360 because I wasn't going to be at h beck and call 24/7 at 30 minutes notice.
DH forgot to mention that she was a complete head case and initially tried to tell me that it was my fault for not getting along with her. I am one of those people who gets along with anybody and can make allowances for lots of people. But not this time.
He has treated her as his spouse for a number of years since BM died. Allowing her to be the matriarch of the family. She is a control freak and gave herself this title.
He does not want anything to do with here but will be so nice to her face about allsorts of stuff and then rant and rave when he comes off the phone.
He refuses to tell her how it is because he does not want to upset her. But he has made my life a misery over the past couple of years with the constant aggravation from this woman and upset me many times with his two-faced attitude.
Apparently things have changed since we got married she says. What did she think we were going to do when we got married... Camp outside her door incase she needed us for something or sit around waiting for her to ring with a request for money or babysitting duties.
I have babysat for her more than I have my own, but it was and is never enough. DH was not happy when I could not do it... He didn't want the hassle of looking after grandkid!
There have been many incidents of snide verbal comments and I have had enough. Many times she has tried to dictate how we live our lives.
I told DH that I will have no more to do with her because of the lies she has told about me to family and friends.
Unfortunately, I have been very ill for the past couple of years, and been made a lot worse by DH and SD trying to put me in the middle of their feud! Both of them unable to sit down and tell each other what they really think of one another. How she thinks she had a crap upbringing... She had exactly the same upbringing and opportunities but always wanted more, more, more. And how let down he feels by her promiscuous behaviour and irresponsible attitude.
I feel so let down by DH because of how he has enabled this woman to interfer in our lives. Having worked full time for over 35years and bringing my 2kids on my own I thought I had found my soulmate, but instead walked into a war that has been going on for years.
Getting past the hurt I feel from how both of them have behaved is proving impossible.
Thanks for listening people and I am so glad I found your great forum! Thankyou!