Nothing huge has happened, except for DH's being laid off (which is absolutely huge and absolutely sucks, of course, but I mean BM/skids-wise). Just more of the same crap. Just wondering if any of you have ever felt like you're not sure if you care after all you've been through? I used to care so much and get so fired up over the shit BM does and says, I used to care how it did or didn't affect skids, and how it would affect my relationship with them. Now I really feel past that. I want their main relationship to be with their father, I want to concentrate on my relationship with my kids, and everyone else be damned! I feel pretty free. But also a bit numb after the two years of intense emotion where everything THEM was concerned.

The other day was DH's last day with them as BM took them away for the holidays. I left and stayed away til after they had gone to bed. I didn't want to intrude on their time with their dad but I also had NOOOOOOOO desire to be anywhere near them! (The next morning, I made them a lovely breakfast and did holiday crafts with them, so it's not like I didn't spend *some* time with them before they left.) I do love them, but in a different way than I love DS and DD.

Is this common? Those of you who have taken emotional "breaks" from the whole blended family/BM BS, occasionally, have you found that your human side just needed replenishment, or have you stayed detached from it all? I wonder what will happen. It feels, like I said, freeing, but at the same time really odd.