So we just got back from vacation, it was meh for me. I had to spend I week at MIL house (with ss13) who enables all her kids. Ss13 went down to her house first with nephew 10. Side not: SIL is still mad at me that we could not bring her nephew home with us. She wanted us to fit 5 people in a car for a three day trip home. BS1 had a giant car seat and there was no room, yet I'm the bad guy.

Anyways.. MIL enabling habits. I tell ss13 to get ready for bed at 9 and she over rules by letting him stay up until 11. Not my kid, not my house, but I would like alone time without screaming kids. She also gives them soda from morning til night. My dh doesn't want to "rock the boat" so he doesn't say anything. I'm pissed, because ss13 doesn't EVER brush his teeth (only the days he is with us). I could care less if his teeth fall out, but I will care about the dental bill that follows as my husband is required to pay half.

The last thing that pissed me off with MIL is that she completely ignored our instructions with BS1 and his sleeping arrangement. We went out of town for one night to have alone time. We informed her of BS sleeping habits and if he wakes up in the middle of the night he likes to come into our bed. My dh told her that nephew 10 could not be in the same bed (he kicks and rolls around). Guess what happened, all 3 of them slepted in the same bed, last time BS is sleeping alone at MIL because she can't follow simple rules. And still allows a 10 year old to sleep with her! Yuck!

The drive home I had to spend 3 days in a car with ss13. I typically hide out or work when he is here, so it was torture. I'm glad he is back with his BM, but will soon be back for another 3 weeks. Only 5 more years to go!