Update on fight with DH over basketball practice.
So DH texted BM this morning at 8am to inform her that she can meet him at the drop off point on Saturday at 10 am or they will meet Friday at normal time and ss would have to miss Basketball.
Crickets
Sent the same text again at noon
Crickets
At 6pm, DH texted her again, this time telling her that she had until 8pm to respond.
Crickets
8pm comes and goes - nothing. So he sent her another text saying that they will just meet Friday at normal time. Crickets.
WTF! We had a huge fight over this for nothing!!! And everyone wonders why I go crazy whenever there names are brought up, try dealing with this for 9 years.
DH and I have both agreed that BM can't be consistent on informing is of scheduling and Ss14 is not consistent on grades. So he will not be attending Friday BB practice on DH time. I will not have hurry last minute to adjust plans, make sure DS is being taken care, every other Friday.
I have a good feeling BM was just trying to get DH to drive all the way to BMs area and he would stay with his parents for the weekend OR she wanted him to give up his weekend.
UPDATE - she finally responded back at 9pm. Saying she left her phone at home all day when she was at work. She said she started at 10am (DH texted her at 8). I very much doubt this, BM works part time, I highly doubt she would work a 10 hour shift AND be away from her phone.
Anyways, she said thanks for giving her the option to bring ss14 on Saturday (sarcasm), She said why could DH just have a family member pick him up and bring him to the meeting point, or have ss stay with a family member. DH got pissed and wanted to know why he needed to ask one of his family members to do her traveling or give up his visitation all together. He called her cheap for not wanting to spend the gas money.
I KNEW IT!!! She just didn't want to do the traveling. She is struggling this month with her finances and probably can't afford the gas money. DH child support took two pay cycles for his new job to kick in the auto withdrawals. So he fell behind 2 payments, the first time in 9 years. As soon as he learned this he made the steps to correct this. Maybe BM shouldn't depend on CS as her main income.
I hate this women.
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Wow, I could have written
Wow, I could have written this post. Pinch me!!!!!
We too have to stay up at my in-laws all weekend because of basketball with a 6 hour round trip otherwise
Unfortunately, this is not an
Unfortunately, this is not an option for us. I have to work odd hours because of the holiday. In laws live out in the middle of know where so they don't get high speed internet.
We also have DS19months. I am not going to make home sit in a car 4 hours one way, just so ss can go to BB practice..... When he has crap grades.
I TOTALLY know what you are
I TOTALLY know what you are saying. I am pregnant and my DH thinks that the baby is going to be happy as a clam driving these 6 hour car trips to get SS or to take him to basketball practice after we already came home, then have a 3rd trip? I don't like spending every other weekend at my inlaws anyways. We have pets here that I don't like abandoning all the time just for basketball. I mean we have to change the entire weekend for SS's basketball practice. We have to spend the night 3 hours away at the inlaws just for a 2 hour basketball practice? Give me a BREAK!
We don't know what SS's grades look like. He claims he is in GATE but he never has homework when he is here. DH would have to ask for the login info from school to check grades and I guess that takes effort? I find it hard to believe that an 8th grader doesn't have any homework over the weekend. High school will be a shock next year. He cries when he doesn't get any game time or when the ref makes a call he doesn't agree with, he's always running his mouth on the court. Poor sportsmanship. BM wants him off the school team because he didn't get any time in two games and they were going to look for a team outside of school and he's already on one team outside of school already.
Inlaws live about 30min north of SS and it is a nice place to stay but I feel like it's just too much having to go there all the damn time. They don't get to see SS often at all so they love it.
I'm waiting with popcorn to see how DH handles Xmas. I don't know if you read that SSstb14 stole $6,000 from his mom off her credit card on Xboxlive and received about 0 punishment. This was back in September and DH told BM that his xmas present would be $$ to give to BM to help pay off the debt. HAR HAR HAR..... I advocated for him to not play sports for the semester/season but my inlaws practically jumped down my throat how you can't take sports away. I didn't see why not, that was truly the only thing that would have hit him hard as a punishment. OH well, not my kid, not my 6 grand that he stole, but it is my problem that a thief comes into MY home now.
Oh I forgot to tell you too that Friday practices , depending on which one, run on average until 9pm. And then DH has a 3 hour drive home!!!!!!! This all doesn't matter anymore because DH is now working Friday nights (starting Jan 1) so he will get off work Saturday morning and then have to go get SS. He might take a nap or I might have to drive so that no one dies in a car wreck. But with my morning sickness all day that should be REALLY fun. DH had no business getting him Fridays to begin with, I am SO thrilled because Friday traffic is 100x worse here, it can take 4+ hours just to get up to SS on a Friday.
Don't even get me started
Don't even get me started with in laws. They make up every excuse for ss14 and why he acts like this. Sure, BM is a horrible person, but not all of ss issues can be blamed on her. But nope, in laws think oh poor ss... It's not his fault that he won't do homework, it's not his fault he is disgusting and doesn't shower/brush teeth - his teeth are brown, he tries to order soda when he is with us, I shoot that down real quick.
My most favorite is; it's not poor ss14 fault that he stole you undies, continuously! I now have to have a lock on my bedroom door and a lock on our filing cabinet so he won't dig through stuff. I'm about to put a lock on the pantry, he likes to sneak treats in his room.