I don't know if anyone else feels like this, but I don't have children, and my partner has a daughter whom he adores and misses and wishes she lived with us. She has been brought up very differently to the way I would bring up my kids and as such behaves in ways I find impossible to ignore, even though my partner feels she is perfection, and in my opinion behaves more like a friend or a big-brother than a dad when she is with us, playing and looking after but not really parenting. I try to work on manners, habits and skills, but end up feeling like the wicked witch of the west. My heart races when she is around because it's all 'daddy' this and 'daddy' that - hugs and cuddles and sunday morning snuggles in bed and it's all te two of them and ha nothing to do with me. I don't feel anything for her but annoyance, frustration and resentment that every second weekend my life revolves around her, that my partner has to pay a significant amount of money each week for her child support, that is her mother has another child, my partner (and I) will have to fork iut even more money....meaning it is more dfficult for us to afford to have a child if that ever happens. My partner wants to have her live with him half the time as soon as possible and I feel that would be a disaster for all parties and a nightmare for me personally - which is really forcing our relationship into that make or break place right now. I'm not sure how to change this feeling - I love my partner but I feel like I can't live with this for the rest of my life. When we started seeig each other he used to see his daughter once a month or so and we didn't live together so I could do my own thing. He used to let her stay up till midnght, watch DVDs non-stop the whole time she was with him and she slept in his bed with a nappy on. If I hadn't come into the picture things would still be the same way. But now we make her eat dinner at the table with a knife and fork (not on the sofa with her spoon) and have a bath, brush her teeth etc.. before bed, then sh gets a story. Even though she is only just 5, we're lucky if she's in bed before 8:30 or 9 and my partner always without fail lies down next to her and falls asleep with her....leaving me downstairs waiting until I go up and wake him, he falls asleep again often and at times I have gone to bed alone, my heart pounding and just feeling like it isn't good for her to have him lie next to her - she needs to go to sleep on her own now - she's a big girl! He doesn't seeanything wrong with it and thinks I'm being nasty. She still wears a nappy and wets it every time she stays - I don't know what she does at home - but toilet training has never been discussed and any time I bring up the subject the tension in the air could be cut with a knife. Am I a bitch from hell?? Is it normal for fathers to behave this way and make it all about the child every time they are around? Is it good parenting? I think there is a big difference between parenting and 'hanging out with' a child. Any suggestios or feedback?