Six months ago, SD 20, called me "ghetto" in front of her father. He made her leave our house but 30 minutes later she returns saying that "it's her house, too." Arguments ensue and I let her know that she is no longer a child and if she continues to name call, etc that she will lose the protection of "just a kid." Sd 20, receives no consequence for this episode beyond a " you shouldn't speak to SM like that" lecture. I can't forget or forgive this incident. At first, I was angry with SD 20, but now.. it's DH. He allowed all this to happen, without consequence.