SS11 smoking?
My DH was on the phone with his grandma yesterday & she says that MIL found cigarettes in SS's pocket & he always smells like smoke. I said he has always smelled like smoke because nasty BM & her nasty boyfriend always smoke inside that little trailer...with 5 kids in it. I said maybe he is, maybe thats why he's always coughing & has a sore throat, or maybe thats from the 2nd hand smoke. I'm surprised MIL hasn't called or emailed about this, she likes to be information central. DH says he's not going to ask SS about it...he doesn't want to accuse him and its not like he would admit to it anyway. So, we do nothing? Not that I have any brillant ideas either, we are 5 states away :?
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He might not admit to it
but i would ask anyway...If he know that someone is on his trail he might just stop...No, he wont admit to it...But it doesnt hurt to let them know,that you know!! Ya know...haha
Take him to volunteer at a
Take him to volunteer at a hospice center or your local VA next time you have him. He'll get a chance to talk to people with chronic illness from making that choice. It's a scary reality.
To every thing there is a season.
teehee...thats a good
teehee...thats a good idea...although it will be over 6 months before we see him again. I'll keep that in mind.
"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"
From that far
away, I don't think there really is much you CAN do.... Dh's girls used to live w/sugarmama...500 miles away. When they had behavior problems, she would call DH wanting him to do something???? I have never understood that woman.
Thats what we were thinking.
Thats what we were thinking. But he doesn't even want to tell the BM because she'll just get an attitude and tell him not to worry about HER kid...thats her usual response if either of us ever talk to her! Guess he's getting to the age where he's gonna start getting in trouble...thought it'd be another year or two!
"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"
my own son tried that
I dont smoke and I have an extermely sensitive nose, so when my bioson came home smelling like smoke I asked him point blank are you smoking..."no mom, Thomas does and we were all stuck in a car while he was smoking" ok I could see that, so when bioson thinks I am in the shower ( I had to go get a towel) I happen to see bioson outside puffing away.
so if it looks like a duck quacks like a duck well you know the rest.
11 yrs old how sad.
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."
Sad but not surprising since
Sad but not surprising since both the BM & her boyfriend do it in front of him constantly. So nasty! Everytime he's come here his suitcase & clothes have stunk up the guest room within an hour of being here. I always have to wash all his clothes as soon as he gets here & throw his suitcase in the garage.
"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"
haha
I used to do that when the sd's lived w/bm. her bf at the time smoked so heavily that as soon as they walked in the door, i made them put everything in the laundry room and put their bags in the garage.....ick
I was pretend smoking at that age
Meaning I didn't inhale and keep my own cigarettes for a few more years. I grew up in the theatre in the 70s and cigarettes seemed so dramatic and sophisticated. Oh yeah- and ABUNDANT as at that time everyone smoked inside the building.
I'm in between. I think it's fine to talk to him. I mean if he smelled like pot would DH say, "He won't admit it anyway, so why bother."?
My kids hate smoke because exH and his W smoked around them when they were little. They finally quit a little over a year ago. I know that doesn't mean my kids will never smoke (I still indulge occasionally, but only in social situations - as in when I am off Ya Ya-ing kinda like men who smoke a few cigars a year.) I have never smoked in front of my children.
I think sometimes people think that they would have never listened to their parents about it so they don't do it. But you know? I never remember my parents telling me I should never smoke. They were never that direct. So I did. I think the idea of taking him to volunteer somewhere that treats cancer/emphysema patients is an excellent idea.
Smoking is a tough habit to drop. I can tell ya, "Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra