both my wife and I come from broken homes, her mother raised her and her younger brother and lived mostly in poverty her entire child hood. My father raised me and my brother, we had a stepmother that was kind of crazy and not very nice. My father had money from my grandfather but I did not grow up with a silver spoon in my mouth as my wife likes to tell people when that subject comes up while talking to people, she loves to tell them how she lived in squaller and I in the lap of luxury, that is how she likes to make spoiling her now adult son who is over 20, with what ever we wants or needs, and it’s been that way since we have been together.

My dad had previous children with his first wife who died when my brother and sister where under the age of 11, my dad spilled them and bought them what ever they wanted. When it came time for me to start driving my dad said he would never buy me a car due to my older brother and sister, I also had to have a part time job that I could work when ever I was not in school to pay for car insurance, gas on my parents vehicle that I would have to borrow when available to get to work or go out if allowed. 

I was a typical rebellious teen, but I never disrespected my dad or my stepmother, it was their marriage not mine to interfere, which is what my wife’s son has done and still does since he has been 8 and started manipulating his mom against me, it was so bad over the last 6 years that I had two TROs filed against me, I tried to be a good stepparent but but when your not allowed to discipline or give suggestions it’s hard to keep your feelings bottled up. 

I did stop trying after he was in preteen years it was easier for me to just let things go, and interact with her daughter who I raised since she was 6 month old, to make sure she did not turn out to be like the son. 

I find it very difficult to deal with her ex’s who seem to cheer for our difficulties in our marriage. I really dislike that they treated like gold for the sake of the kids and I’m the door mat that provides the health insurance for the family I work to jobs a full time and part time business I own to help support them and our life. 

I think my DW is propably gonna file, although she said that we could still hookup and stuff since we have no STD's , because where we live is a small city with big STD problem, and still see eachother just wont be married!!!! To preserve my relationship with my 13 yr old SD and 8 yr old daughter and to keep appearances up in the neighborhood. I just can't live in the home that my VA benefits and money help build and buy. She says she wants me around but not fulltime, says she thinks we become to comfortable with eachother, that its hard for her to decide if she does want a divorce. The bad part of this all is that she talked me in to getting her name on my chest, before I went back over to Theater in Iraq in 09. I was fighting it tooth and nail because I thought people who did that were not very smart. Their right I was not very smart. My life is completly in shambels. I should have stayed single from my last divorce. At least I have work and my side business so that keeps me busy for 15 hours a day.