I need help with my 16 yr old SS!!!!
I'm not sure what steps to take...I feel really irritated by his presence, he so obnoxious!! Here's the deal lately he's been threatening me with passive aggressive gestures, for example; he puts on his boxing gloves and pretends like he's gonna punch me, hell he eating something and lifts up the fork or knife towards me as if he was going to stab me. My partner recently bought a weapon to "protect ourselves" and I was very clear I was against it. Anyway, he let the kid handle the gun unloaded of course and the first thing he did was point it at me!!! Should I be worried about this future psychopath?? He's a drug addict and is always talking madness. His father doesn't discipline he's one of those permissive parents....oh I have a nine month old so I'm in a tough situation! Any advice please help!
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You need help with yoour
You need help with yoour spouse not shutting this down immediately.
My OSD threw a pen across the room at DH and I one evening when she was having a meltdown (age about 13). I literally had to duck so it didn't hit me in the face. DH got up so fast and removed her from the room and instutited an actual ramification for that (this is rare with him, very rare) that I didn't even have to say a word.
That was the ONLY physically violent action she ever took again.
If you DH doesn't remove him from the home (what about BM) then both he and his son leave, immediately.
Hell, I'd even call the cops if someone pointed a gun at me or threatened me with any sort of violence. Get it recorded on video if you can.
Unloaded guns are not pointed
Unloaded guns are not pointed at people. Ever. That's basic gun safety. I can't believe your DH didn't shut that down.
I couldn't live with such hostility and threats. ("I was just kidding" is another form of abuse, so don't fall for that.) What is your DH doing about it? If nothing, is there a safe place you can take your baby for a few days? SURELY your DH knows how wrong these veiled threats are, and he needs a come to Jesus wake up call about your willingness to live with a budding psychopath.
You need help with your
You need help with your spouse. He's a sh!tty parent.
Also, firearms should always be handled as if they were loaded. Always. Highly trained and experienced firearms trainers have shot themselves by not following that first and very important rule. A FIREARM IS ALWAYS LOADED.
It sounds like your husband should not have kids or firearms. Sorry, you probably don't want the advice I really want to offer.
I’m gonna have to end the relationship...
I just had a revelation...although the SK are a pain in my butt selfish, arrogant and disrespectful I think it's all the SO fault... he threw me under the bus when I needed his support trying to implement rules in the home for the well being of the house and for my sanity. I told him and spoke to the kids went as far as to buy dry erase boards to point out the obvious like please flush the toilet and put your dishes in the sink etc. Don't forget these kids are 13 and 16!! And instead of talking to them in the right setting to try to give them responsibilities around the house he called them to our room and said hey wash your dishes cuz she keeps bitching at me! My jaw dropped and I felt infuriated!! I feel like I devoted 9 years of my life to these people in vain...Im saddened and in awe of how little respect he gave our relationship by just outing me instead of him working towards a solution and perhaps growth in the family and relationship. Am I wrong am I just dramatic am I just a b$)&@ like they say I am...
Permissive Parenting or shitty parenting???
The little $&:t 16yo SS jokingly threatened me out loud in front of his dad and HE did nothing about it!!! Should I be taking this so serious?? Am I really just after this little $&@" or am I now just so sensitive to bull$&@?!! He said he wanted to stab me in the head with a knife and I was enraged and talked to SO immediately in a different room and said " I didn't hear anything why don't you tell him"....like EXCUSE ME!!!! Boy I blew up! Should I talk to the ridiculously rude and obnoxious son and possibly escalate the situation or should he be the one addressing that to his son?? Help!! In my option I think he should be disciplining the 16 yo not me! I'm so angry right now I can't even think....
This kid sounds like a
This kid sounds like a dangerous little psychopath. You should not be subjected to his half-joking threats. He is 16, way too old to be not taken seriously. Please protect yourself. Do not stay with him if he is acting this way. This is not ok.