Today is it..I've come to the end of my rope with my husband's ex-wife. I found this site and hope it helps relieve some of my frustration. It already helps to know that I am not alone in my own version of hell.

She stalks me, in cyberspace and in the "real" world. The firm that I work for has to place a special firewall around my computer station and around my phone station just to keep her away from me at my work place. If I am at my stepchildren's events, she winds up always sitting behind me (even when we sit on the opposite side of the field), going to the concession stand when I do, etc. She drives by our home; has slashed the tires on my vehicle and has had our electricity turned off while we were on away on an extended vacation.

I have considered a restraining order, but feel like that hurts the kids as much as it would help me. Plus, I don't want to give her any more attention then she already gets.

Recently, my husband has been pulled into meetings with her at my stepson's school to discuss his behavior and a possible IEP. She has no basis for these meetings and has admitted that she likes the "face time" that they provide for her with my husband.

Needless to say, I don't know what to say or do anymore. My husband and I had another roe about it today and his comment was that mabye I am the crazy, jealous one and not her.....

She won't stay out of our lives. She uses the kids to gain access. She constantly barrages them with questions about what we are doing, where we are going, etc. We go to counseling and the counselor agrees that she is someone to stay away from and to have minimal contact with. My husband's reasoning is that he has to do it for the kids....where do I figure in?

Help!! Any all advice welcome.

MR