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I told skids that if they didn't pick up after themselves...

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Submitted by Manda on Fri, 07/10/2009 - 2:00am

So I told the skids that they have to pick up their belongings before they went to their BM's house or they wouldn't have it when they came home. I even saw things of theirs left out before they left and told them to go through the house again to make sure they didn't miss anything and they both came out and said they didn't see anything. So as I said I would, I threw all the things they left out away! FH doesn't know what I threw out but he knew the rule. Well anyways, the skids are coming home tomorrow and I'm waiting for when they are looking for their things...I am so looking forward to telling them that they're gone forever. Maybe they'll learn finally!

Anyone else try this method and how'd it work out?

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Submitted by emptyrisksagain on Fri, 07/10/2009 - 2:16am

I admire the heck out of your ability to stick to it. No kidding! WOW!

I tried this with my bio sons when they were way younger and wouldn't pick up (I just put evetything in a big, black trash bag and hid it in laundry room for a few weeks)..needless to say...THEY HAVE NICER ROOMS NOW THAT THEY'RE OLDER. lol.

With SD I tried this a few times. By the time I felt gutsy enough to actually throw stuff away (years later), her dad (now my DH) would stop me/talk me out of it).

I SHOULD HAVE DONE IT. Whatever she touches and no matter where she has been now is just some fowl smelling, nasty, dirt covered, ass smelling HOLE that was once a room.

The kiddos in your life shouldn've listened. Hopefully FH will back you up. Best of luck!

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Submitted by Manda on Fri, 07/10/2009 - 2:35am

Thank for the response but I have to say that I refuse to pick up after them and if I'm forced to then I'm not going up the extra stairs to put THEIR stuff away for them, I'm only going up one flight of stairs to put it in the garbage. If they don't value it enough to put it away then they shouldn't have it all together. And the more they get thrown away the less they will get bought for them. Maybe i'm this way because both my parents were strict with my bro and I but I feel very strongly about having rules and not being walked all over. I don't care if it's my bio kid or skids (especially) but I am the adult and I am going to demand the respect I deserve! I am so sick of feeling I have to tip toe around my own house because it was the skids house first...well I help with this house and it's not their BM's house anymore...there's a new sheriff in town!

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Submitted by BettyRay on Fri, 07/10/2009 - 12:46pm

I pick up toys left in the common areas of the house after the SSons leave. I put the toys I collect in a box. Once a month I let SSons go through the box.

Any toy they want back - they have to buy back. I charge anywhere from 5 cents to a $1. The stuff they don't buy back I donate to charity.

It seems to work well and DH agrees with this method. The money I collect is saved and once a year donated to charity in SSons names.

~BettyRay
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Submitted by Casper3 on Fri, 07/10/2009 - 12:50pm

if a toy is left out it goes in the trash. Do not pass go, do not collect. Most of the time, they don't even notice its gone.

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Submitted by missangie1978 on Fri, 07/10/2009 - 1:22pm

I told him if all his video games and dvd's were not cleaned up by a certain time that I would be getting rid of them.

I just had a big stop to the used game/video store and sold all of the onces that were laying around. I'm taking the money and getting me a prenatal massage Smile