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Ever feel like you're losing your identity?

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Submitted by Manda on Tue, 09/15/2009 - 2:27am

I went out tonigt without FH and was asked several times where my "other half" was...I also went out the other night without FH and was asked the same thing! I hate this question because I had a single life before FH and nobody said anything. Why do I have to be attached at the hip to FH??? I know a lot of people in our small town so when they see me out and don't see FH they always ask about him...does anyone think that maybe I don't want to be around him sometimes? I hate it...so I've decided I'm going out more often on my own with family, friends, etc. I need my own life outside of skids and FH and the whole domestic role!

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Submitted by ceecee32 on Tue, 09/15/2009 - 9:21am

Yes I have felt like this. I think a good girls night out now and then is a great thing.
A man once said to me out at a bar (was with friends). Where is your husband he lets you out without him? :sick: Uh yeah cave man he does. As long as it doesn't become an every night thing or affect your realationship what is the problem? IF your doing it to annoy him or make him react then I would step back and take a look at why. Enjoy yourself!

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Submitted by Manda on Wed, 09/16/2009 - 1:23am

I totally agree...a night out is healthy. Although I was out with my BROTHER the other night without FH and in a town far from our home town and ran into a friend of FH's...I actually went up to his friend and said hi and of course he asked where FH was so I told him the truth and said FH was home with the skids and I went out with my brother to meet up with some old friends of ours. Well low and behold FH's friend called another friend the next day and it trickled down to FH...thank God he knew I was out with my brother and stuck up for me... I'm just feeling that I can't go out without some kind of eyes on me...not like I would ever cheat but I feel like I should be able to go out without someone asking me where my "other half" is or who I'm with!

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Submitted by ChaiLatte on Tue, 09/15/2009 - 11:50am

I would never want to be single again. But this situation does make me sad sometimes because my life is so far from how I expected it to be by the time I reached this age. Decisions get made that make me feel like we just keep getting farther and farther away from my wishes and expectations, to do the things that make DH and SS happy. I just sit back and wait for it to be my turn.

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Submitted by Manda on Wed, 09/16/2009 - 1:33am

When is it really OUR time though??? Yes, the skids turn 18 but they are never going to be out of our lives totally... I actually was just thinking today...9 more years until BM is out of our lives but in reality she will never be....can I handle that? I know it gets better after CS isn't involved but I'm 30 years old and my bro is 27 and our parents STILL talk to each other about us... I really just want BM out of our lives period but don't think that's realistic...so the question comes down to if I can handle it or just need to walk away from the love of my life...