Her latest thing is trying to convince SD that she should be afraid of me. I heard a tiny bit of phone conversation the other night between them and told DH. He spoke to Sybil later that night, and came upstairs and asked SD if she was afraid of me. She replied yes she is.

This is BULL!! This child shadows me wherever I go. If I leave the room, she follows me to see what I'm doing and can she help me. Walks with me in the store, introduces me as her Mom 90% of the time, loves to spend time with me. She even started a game that she wants me to try to kiss her cheek or forehead and giggles when I try...if I succeed she says it doesn't count we have to do it again. Yeah. That' REAL fear there.

Sybil texted DH yesterday wanting us to bring the skids to visit at least once a month (um did i mention this is a 4 hour one-way drive, plus a $100 hotel room because I am not welcome in her home, not that i'd ever stay with her anyway...) her excuse is that if she sees Sybil more often, then SD won't be so scared to spend time with me. Again, BULL!! This child chooses to hold my hand rather than DHs when in stores or parking lots. She only mentions her mom when she's spoken to her within the past 24 hours. NEVER cries for her at night or anything.

I mentioned previously that we bought her a (POS) car. She wasn't grateful in the least. I find it funny, because it is truly a POS. She hasn't been able to drive it more than a couple of days. The test drive was fine, DH found nothing wrong with it (he's enough of a car guy to know) but it doesn't work right. Naturally, that's OUR fault, so she wants DH to come over and fix it. (Again...4 HOUR one way trip. Not a snowballs chance!!) He told her no, i've lost count of how many times she's called whining about the car. He told her to sell it then if it sucks so bad. I TOLD him we shouldn't buy one!! I could have finished our basement for what that POS cost. Damn. I told him she will never be happy with anything, ever. If we'd bought her a brand new car, she'd have whined and complained about the model or the color or something. She can't be satisfied. I think he's finally stopped trying to pacify her. About time. We have the kids, they aren't going back to that gang-infested ghetto period ever. If she gets straightened out and moves, we'll work out something. Until then, well, possession is 9/10 of the law, and we got 'em!!

Also, turns out Sybil is a confirmed druggie. She admitted to DH earlier today, during rambling over another sob story of hers.

The night we arrived in her city to pick up the kids, we got a text the next morning saying "help she's gone." I got it, looking at DH phone, she'd spammed us so much the night before we shut it off. (22 voice mails in a very few hours.) I panicked, not knowing the phone #, thought it was Sybil saying SD5 was missing. Turned out it was Sybil's 15 yo son, telling DH that SYBIL was missing!! Their neighbor came over and stayed with SD5 and SS10 when the teens went to school. Turned out she spent the night with an ex-boyfriend. I told DH at that time, she did it because we were in town--she wanted a reaction from DH. She told him when he went to see the kids, and he just looked at her. (he told me later he was even more certain than he was before we were married, that he felt nothing for her }:) ). We decided I was right; by the end of the week, no more mention of her ex-BF was made. Told DH she was using her ex-BF to taunt him and dumped him when she didn't get a reaction.

That was nearly a month ago. She tells DH tonight that ex-BF raped her that night...that she was drinking brandy and smoking something that was legal in a bong pipe (yeah right) and she passed out after a few hits and woke up without her pants on. Sorry. I don't believe that for an instant. Can't rape the willing, for one thing lol!

DON'T get me wrong!! I'm not making light of rape or rape victims; I just don't feel she qualifies. This is another of her stupid sob stories trying to get DH back. She also asked DH to come back "home" to her and bring the kids. He told her in no uncertain terms THIS is home--with ME!!!! not with Sybil--that that would never happen EVER EVER even if he and I weren't married. She just doesn't get it.