I've lurked around here for a couple months now, but this is my first time posting. I've been with FDH about a year and half now, and have known FSS4 for almost a year. At first things were great. All last summer and fall I had a great time with FSS4 and he seemed to really take to me, which I was so happy about because he's a bit shy.

But in the past few months everything has changed and he rarely seeks me out to play anymore. Anytime his dad is sitting next to me, holding my hand, talking to me, FSS has to wedge his way in between us and will even tell his dad not to sit by me, to sit next to him instead and to not kiss me or talk to me or hold my hand. He has also started saying things like I'm not his friend and he doesn't want me around. It's very, very hurtful considering how he was with me previously - if I was gone at work or something he would call me and want to come visit, when I was around he always wanted me to play with him.

Well today after being disrespectful to me, his father was having a talk with him and FSS4 said that his mommy told him that 'madison27 is bad and you should be mean to her'. Not a surprise considering her previous crazy behavior towards me, but that is a whole other post

My question is...what should we do about this, if anything? I know if we confront her about it she will lie and say she has never told him anything like that. We have already had this issue with her and my FMIL because BM hates her and has told FSS4 to be naughty to her. BM's own family members have confirmed this with us as well as the things she says about myself and FDH to FSS. I'm just at a loss as to how to handle any of this, it's heartbreaking