It is only since I joined this site that I figured out what happened to my brother and I as children. I didn't understand the pattern before, but I now realize that we were PASlings.

My parents never got a divorce (they are still married) but my mother was a stay at home mom and PASed the living hell out of both of us.

This is how it went:

My mother, brother, and I all slept on the living room floor together until I was 11 (my brother was 9). My mother told us she didn't want us to have to be "alone."

My mother turned my father into the bad guy by arguing with him in front of us about every time he wanted to discipline us.

My mother let us do whatever we want all day long every single day (we were homeschooled). Then dad was the bad guy who "made us work" whenever he got home from his job.

My mother told us about every bad thing my dad had ever done to her, even before we were born.

My mother told us about how many times my dad had cheated on her, and insisted he was STILL cheating on her.

My mother told us my dad had diseases (not true) from sleeping around with random women and that we shouldn't drink from his cup or eat off his plate because we might catch HIV.

My mother told us that our father would not care if we all died in a car accident.

My mother told us she was afraid our father might kill her.

My mother told us she couldn't do anything about the horrendous abuse she suffered at my father's hands because he would take us away. Or because he would remarry to some woman who would be mean to us. Or because she wouldn't be there to protect us from him during "visitation" after the divorce.

My mother told us he loved the people at his workplace more than he loved us.

My mother told us that our father would never be a real father and that she thought (and secretly hoped) that her fertility doctor had used his own sperm to impregnate her instead of our father's sperm.

My mother told us that our father was no better than a dog, and wanted to have sex with anything that moved--including other men--and that he was having an affair with my piano instructor (a married man with five kids).

The list continues. I guess the point is that I am just now realizing how bad this PAS thing can really be, and the extent of the horrible things that a mother can claim. My mother's nonsense really affected my relationship with my dad. He had his own real problems as a parent at the time, but I now understand how much my mother was contributing to the situation.

Anyone else had experiences with this?