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BM, Skids, or DH: Why are you here?

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Submitted by LuluOnce on Thu, 01/30/2020 - 8:07pm

The blog post started by stepgirlfriendfurmom about the "top ten worst BMs on our site" got me thinking about why many of us joined StepTalk.

Most of us have a confluence of problems and people to vent and complain about, but tend to spend our time venting about one particular person in our step-world more than others. I also think that person may change over time.

Another loss

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Submitted by LuluOnce on Fri, 01/24/2020 - 3:09pm

Won't be up long.

If you recall, BM (who has schizophrenia among other things) has been ordered to supervised visitation. The supervisor is GBM. In November, during a visit, GBM went in sat in the car in a parking lot/garage area and let BM take the kids shopping at a strip mall. OSDstb14 got very upset, told BM and GBM she wasn't comfortable being alone with BM without GBM and they both ignored it. It was also during a phase where BM was not seeing her therapists and was exhibiting manic tendencies (paranoia, non-stop and unintelligible communication to DH, etc.) 

Share Your Skids' Eating Habits!

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Submitted by LuluOnce on Mon, 12/30/2019 - 5:22pm

I didn't want to hijack Chmmy's last post, but it brought up a lot of rage for me. OSD13stb14 is home on winter break and the food issues are are always the biggest problem when we are home together too long. (I work part time from home; usually try to be gone at other times but I'm sick this week!) Based on the quick responses Chmmy got, that lots of us have skids with abnormal, unhealthy, unattractive eating habits and/or manners and I want to hear about them!

Court update: Mostly a win and yet, I'm still annoyed

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Submitted by LuluOnce on Wed, 05/29/2019 - 6:56pm

DH and BM had court today. DH's lawyer wanted to negotiate everything they could and get to a partial agreement before they went in front of the judge because BM is less argumentative when she's not standing in front of the judge and often times, she wants stupid things we don't care about so we "trade" for something that we really do want. Most of this (except the money part) was an agreement between DH and BM via their lawyers. 

What we "won": 

1. Supervised visits remain in effect until BM can prove she's mentally stable.

In this episode, SD12 worships BM and I go crazy

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Submitted by LuluOnce on Tue, 12/04/2018 - 7:10pm

So. Here we are, going into month five of full time custody… and I am losing my mind with SD12.

SD12 and I have almost always gotten along well, yet I wouldn’t say we’ve ever been super close. BM considered SD12 her "BFF" and always has, so since I've met her, OSD has been very loyal to her mother and it’s been much harder to “bond” with her the same way I have with SDnow8, who loves BM, but also has a difficult and less happy relationship with her.

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