If you have read my blog you know that BM committed suicide. I have been raising her 3 kids for 13 years and they are all 18 or older now. In fact 2 of their birthdays were last week (B18 and G19). We have not heard from BM's family since her death which has been 2 years in october. Their grandmother sent them each a card and written on the inside is a little passage about how much she misses them and loves them and if they want to call her, they can call her house number at XXX or her cell number at XXXX and then she states that the cell number is their mom's old number.

You said your SD is 7. My SD was 5 when I got her. I never pushed myself on her because BM would tell her "shes not your mom" and "you cant call her mom". I remember one time my SD asked me if she could call me mom shortly after I moved in with them. I sat her down and told her to call me whatever she wanted. Whatever made her comfortable. I knew I wasnt her mom and was not trying to take her place. She continued to call me by my name. I didnt hug her or coddle her the way I do my own. I regret it sincerely. I wish I would have pushed myself on her.

I am so tired........... I sometimes feel like I made a huge mistake. My husband is so wonderful to me and he loves his and our kids. I just keep thinking I should not have been such a control freak! When their mom dropped them off and moved far away I jumped in and TADA!!! I was a mom. No kids of my own at that time, mind you. I should have made her take them even though she didnt want to. From day one it was so much drama from bio mom and my husbands mother. No wonder his ex wife was such a nut, dealing with that crazy biotch would tend to make you looney.