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Submitted by LPS on Wed, 03/28/2012 - 10:44am

I made the gyno appointment it's the last week of April for my SD and I told them I want her to see the dr and have the depro shot. I was told, it didn't matter what I or DH want because she is 16 and anything she and the dr discuss is between them unless SD signs paperwork stating she wants us to be told anything. I think that is the stupidest law, she is 16, she is not 18. So, since I will be taking her, I will most likely fill out the paperwork, add myself and DH and have her sign it. Knowing her, she will tell dr she wants pills because she is afraid of the shot and if thats the case, knowing her and her irresponsibility to taking medication, she wont take them.

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Submitted by LPS on Wed, 03/28/2012 - 10:58am

I already told her, both alone and in front of DH if she gets pregnant she cannot live her anymore and she will be living with BM. BM lives in a different state and attempted to have her go with her and SD didn't want to, so DH had to go to court and fight for residential custody, so now she lives with us full time. She never sees BM, I don't even think they talk, only text so I am hoping she is taking what I say seriously because she doesn't want to live with BM. She isn't even planning on telling BM what is going on.

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Submitted by LPS on Wed, 03/28/2012 - 10:53am

I think there is a patch, my problem with her being responsible enough to do it on her own is the problem. She already stated to DH and I she doesn't know how she would be able to take pills when she is with BM this summer (like that'll even happen, but that's a whole other story). She is on medication now for a continuous outbreak of cold sores, because she never follows through to take the medicine, she always forgets. She is completely irresponsible.

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Submitted by Anywho78 on Wed, 03/28/2012 - 10:55am

Is she fighting you about the shot? Hopefully she finds a brain-cell or two & goes for it. I'm with newwife on the 1950's threats about pregnancy. Have you thought about suggesting the patch?

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Submitted by LPS on Wed, 03/28/2012 - 11:01am

Knowing her, she would not change the patch or forget the directions. I'm sorry, I may sound like a bitch when I say this but I have my own Bkids I need to worry about. I can't be on top of SD constantly asking her did you take your pill or did you change your patch and DH is so lax about these things it would all fall on me.

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Submitted by Lalena75 on Wed, 03/28/2012 - 11:08am

Besides the depo (which I personally hated it made me crazy and I would bleed for weeks) there are several longer term options such as the iud (which id wait till she's older) and implanon (sp?) Which is don't in office and implanted in the arm. Pills take responsibility and consistancy plus antibiotic and other meds make the pill not work (how I got pregnant on the pill) unfortunately yes at that age the dr will let her choose what she wants and honestly I disagree. Encourage her to really think about what's best let her know her choices their effectivness and how if she's thinking she's old enough for sex then she has to be responsible for her bc and any babies or std's she may get. I'm dealing with the same with my bioD but at least she came to me before having sex and asked for bc because she's thinking she might want to have sex. I told her I would take her but I would not give her permission to have sex nor allow her to be in situations where she can easily do that. Scares the crap outta me, but glad she came to me and wants to be responsible BEFORE she does it.

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Submitted by LPS on Wed, 03/28/2012 - 11:24am

You should be so proud of your BD for coming to you, that is a huge step. I went to BD knowing what she has been up to. I am deathly afraid that even before this appointment, something is going happen. Especially since DH said nothing to her about her lack of clothing, and her and bf humping. He condones it, he wants to be the "cool dad".

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Submitted by Superstopmommy on Wed, 03/28/2012 - 11:24am

Yes the medical profession can sometimes rot. I have 3 BD and at the age they all turned 15 I was shooed out of the room so the MD could talk to them alone. Whatever! I asked once why and they stated that they feel the child will tell them more personal stuff, ie I have slept with someone... and so on, if the parent is not in the room. Okay.. and if they happen to have gotten some disease do you not think the parent is going to find out??? I think this part of the HIPPA rule is DUMB.

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Submitted by LPS on Wed, 03/28/2012 - 11:38am

Yup, I completely agree. When I mentioned it to DH however, he's ok with it. How can he be ok with his 16 year old irresponsible daughter talking alone to a Dr to decide what type of medicine is best for her? Medicine he knows as SD will not be taking. If she is "old" enough to be sexual active then she should be responsible enough to take her medication and not kiss and share straws with her boyfriend when either of them have an out break of herpes in their mouth.

My BS14 told me this morning, he refuses to keep his tooth brush in the same bathroom as her, asked for a new one and took it upstairs to mine and his BS bathroom to get ready for school this morning. He is completely skeeved out by her.

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Submitted by momagainfor4 on Wed, 03/28/2012 - 11:42am

haha.. well pushing a baby out of your vagina hurts a lot more than a 10 second shot!!
ugh.