So it finally happened, DH turned around the BC talk on me. Now he's mad at me because I started with wanting SD on BC. He's ok with SD going to her bf house and being in her bra and panties and when he asked my opinion and I told him I was surprised he didn't say anything to her yesterday about it, he said he wants to be the cool dad and now he doesn't know what to do. I said he should not allow SD to go to bf house and bf should come here and his response was, do I want to stay home all weekend and do nothing. I said if need be. He said he has to let her still go there. I told him I think its wrong, she should be told she is not allowed to be in bf room in bra and panties and bf in boxers, and if it was my daughter I would want to know. He said he was happier yesterday when he didn't know. I said you are her father and you MUST know what she is doing. I said I have known for so many months and I wanted to tell him but knew it would compromise our marriage if I had anything negative to say about his daughter, and as I suspected it's now happening, I again am the evil one who wants to get his daughter in trouble. Sorry, DH, SD is getting herself in trouble and by her admitting to her behavior and YOU not doing anything about it, you are allowing and condoning the problem.

I am officially stepping back, if he thinks its ok, I said my peace, it's his daughter and he has to deal with the consequences. I will not bring it up again, the ball is in his court. I will take her to the gyno if he wants me to or he can do it himself. I am done.