Married for 28 years. Husband recently passed away. 2 adult BD and 2 adult SD. Over the years Christmas been stressful,due to the fact that my 2 adult SD give gifts to each other and not to my 2 BD at our Xmas get together. My husband, myself and 2 BD always felt this was not a kind thing to do, but my husband, fearing rejection from his BD would not say anything to them. All gifts from my husband and myself were and are now always approximtely equal in to the kids, their husands and grandchildren.